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“Live your questions now, and perhaps even without knowing it, you will live along some distant day into your answers.” ~ Rainer Maria Rilke

“Who are you when no one is watching?”

“I never learn anything talking. I only learn things when I ask questions.” ~ Lou Holtz

Have a fantabulous weekend!
Coach Carolyn

“When everybody tells you that you are being idealistic or impractical, consider the possibility that everybody could be wrong about what is right for you.” ~ Gilbert Kaplan

This speaks directly to the fourth agreement: Always Do Your Best

I believe that we all strive to do the best that we know how to do and be the best that we can be. It would never serve you or anyone to wake up in the morning and say, “Now how can I absolutely screw up and be the worst me I can be!”

I may not know you personally, but I can guess you don’t say this. Especially if you are reading this blog, I can guess that you strive to be your bestest. Never settle for less than your best.

You are a child of the Divine – be that!

Coach Carolyn

Novelist and poet Christopher Morley once said, "When you give someone a book, you don't give them just paper, ink, and glue. You give them the possibility of a whole new life."

One of the possibilities is the possibility of inner peace. Not only can a book transport a person to a far off land, to another time, a different space, but it can also give the gift of inner peace – a respite from the harried and hurried life they are all too familiar with.

When you need to give a gift and have no idea what to give – give the gift of inner peace. Give a gift certificate to a favorite bookstore or to Amazon.com. It’s the kind of gift that will forever be appreciated and cherished.

Give the gift of peace,
Coach Carolyn

“If you knew everything was really all right, and that it always has a happy ending, then you would not feel trepidacious about your future. Everything is really so very all right! If you could believe and trust that, then, immediately everything would automatically and instantly become all right.” ~ Abraham

If you had no fear, what would you accomplish?

STOP, TAKE A BREATH, and ASK yourself this question. Most of us operate out of a sense of fear instead of a sense of faith, love and trust.

You never worry about the air around you running out – so you have to run outside and breathe as much of it as possible. You have faith and trust that wherever you go, there is enough air for you to breathe.

Think about your true desires and dreams. If they are truly your dreams and not the dreams of your parents, your cultural tribe or your teachers, then the way to make those dreams reality right there beside those dreams. The answers are always in the same room with the questions.

All divine desires are given divine expressions. That is your task. This is where you take the inspired action to make those dreams and divine desires a reality. When you come from a place of pure divinity, fear does not exist.

Leap. The net will appear.
Coach Carolyn

You are a Divine Expression waiting to express your divine desire. Don't let fear stop you from your expression. Join the Transcending Fear Mentoring Program today and express freely and fully.

I got this from the Daily OM; and I thought it was appropriate for our community of purposeful women. Enjoy!

If we do not stand together, we will surely fall apart! Support your sisters.

Coach Carolyn

“Be patient toward all that is unsolved in your heart and try to love the questions themselves. Do not now seek the answers, which cannot be given you because you would not be able to live them. And the point is to live everything. Live the questions.” ~ Rainer Maria Rilke

“What questions are you wrestling with right now?”

"It is not the answer that enlightens, but the question." ~ Decouvertes

Have an awesome weekend!
Coach Carolyn

Every morning you wake up, you have a beautiful blank canvas before you on which to create your day.

What do you choose to paint, write, sculpt, or handcraft?

You have the power to create your day, which creates your life. Your life is made up of days. So, take it one day at a time. Don’t get overwhelmed by next month, or the next six months, or the next twelve months. You only have right now, this moment. How are you going to live that?

So, just for today, just create today.

Coach Carolyn

"The first peace, which is the most important, is that which comes within the souls of people when they realize their relationship, their oneness with the universe and all its powers, and when they realize that at the center of the universe dwells the Great Spirit, and that this center is really everywhere, it is within each of us." ~ Black Elk

When you can be peace, then there is some peace in the world. More importantly, there is some peace within your immediate world. This is good news. You have within you the power to manifest peace. I hear so much about trying to find peace, seeking peace, looking outside of ourselves for the peace that is closer than our breath.

I am often reminded of the words of the Psalmist that says, “Be still and know that I am God.” This is the peace that has been born within you, the peace that lights your world when it is so dark all around you.

Just for today, don’t look for peace outside of yourself. Simply STOP, TAKE A BREATH, and be peace. And then you will be.

I choose peace instead of this.

Coach Carolyn

“Fear makes strangers of people who would be friends.” ~ Shirley Maclaine

The one insidious thing about fear is that it steals your true identity.

When you are in a state of fear, you do not think, behave or speak as you would when you are not afraid. You become a lesser version of yourself. Your authentic self becomes buried beneath the fear and cowering. This, in turn, has the ripple effect. Your are not your real self to people who would become friends. You show up as the lesser you. So if you are wondering why your relationships are not what they ought, think about how you are “being.”

Are you being fearful?

Because if you are, then you need to know that fear will not allow you to have healthy, long-lasting relationships. Your relationships may last long, but I can bet you they are not healthy and filled with peaceful exchanges. They are not nutritious. Look at your relationships – familial, work, social and otherwise. How would you diagnose them? Healthy or sick?

Remember, you are the common denominator of those relationships; so if they are not healthy, guess what?

"To conquer fear is the beginning of wisdom." ~ Bertrand Russell

Coach Carolyn

Don't let fear steal your identity or ruin your relationships. Join the Transcending Fear Mentoring Program today and take back your identity.

Always Do Your Best: Your best is going to change from moment to moment; it will be different when you are healthy as opposed to sick. Under any circumstance, simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse, and regret. ~ The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz

This is my favorite agreement… this week! I have begin the process of creating new online businesses and I said to myself that I will simply do the best that I can. We make agreements all the time – with others and with ourselves. More often than not, we do not honor the agreements we make to ourselves. We would feel mortified if we broke an agreement or an appointment with someone else. Yet, we feel it is okay to break agreements and appointments with ourselves. Are we not as important? We send the message that we are not.

Another agreement I made with myself is to be consistent with my spiritual practices and daily routines that will get me closer to my desires and intentions. If I am not consistent, then I will get what I have always gotten – nothing! I truly see and even feel the difference in being consistent. I have been consistent in doing those things that have created the habits I don’t want. Now it’s time to replace those non-serving habits with nutritious habits that will serve me and bring me closer to my intentions and dreams.

I love that Don Miguel states your best will change from moment to moment, because we all change and shift as well and our best must shift with us. But whatever shifts we are going through, always do your best.

Just for today, do your best!
Coach Carolyn

Honor yourself by not allowing fear to rule your life. Join the Transcending Fear Mentoring Program today!

"Over the years I’ve realized that when we define ourselves through one thing, we risk being disappointed by unmet expectations. Whether it’s your business, your marriage, your children or your exercise regimen, associating your identity too deeply with one aspect of your life can lead to a true identity crisis and result in unhappiness.

"In fact experts say that the more diverse and varied our interests and passions are, the happier we become, citing examples of happy people who have many facets to their lives. When I first started Ladies Who Launch, like many passionate new launchers, I deeply associated myself with its mission, the brand and the evolving community. However there were times when my enthusiasm backfired, causing me to be discouraged at the twists and turns in the road.

"Feeling discouraged is a negative energy drain and can start a downward spiral leading to bad choices and less than desirable results. Although hindsight is 20/20, if I could give any budding entrepreneur advice today, I’d say, cultivate and give equal attention to all aspects of your life that create positive energy feelings for you. When one thing is in turmoil, the others balance it out, giving you just the boost you need to handle tough times optimally."

From Victoria's Daily Launch Tip of Ladies Who Launch

Here's to the Ladies Who Launch!
Coach Carolyn



Don't let fear keep you from launching into your greatest dreams! Sign up for the Transcending Fear Mentoring Program today!

Quote of the Day

"The question has been raised about whether or not our president is a socialist. . [H]e's not a socialist. He's a corporatist. And unfortunately we have corporatists inside the Republican party and that means you take care of corporations and corporations take over and run the country. We see it in the financial institutions, we see it in the military-industrial complex. And now we see it in the medical-industrial complex."

Dubbed the World's Worst Mother, Tennessee's Torry Ann Hansen has just made life much harder for countless orphans and their would-be adopted parents.

This looks like a good one! It features two of my favorite women, and it's about [gasp] gay marriage! The Film Salon says: "Julianne Moore and Annette Bening star in one of the most compelling portraits of American coupling in film history."

It's official, the oldest liberal on the High Court is retiring. John Paul Stevens will be missed! Here's hoping Obama will deliver a solidly liberal and exceedingly feminist Justice. Surely President Obama will strive to make a dent in the excessively male-dominated Court by choosing a woman:

Associate Justice John Paul Stevens, leader of the liberal wing of the Supreme Court, announced on Friday that he would retire at the end of this term, setting up a confirmation battle over his replacement that is virtually certain to dominate the political scene this summer.

"Although we may never know with complete certainty the identity of the winner of this year's Presidential election, the identity of the loser is perfectly clear. It is the Nation's confidence in the judge as an impartial guardian of the rule of law."

Or maybe it's not a curse if you don't have to be in charge all the time:

"I told him if he ever beat his wife again, I'd dissolve the marriage and put him in prison," she remembers. "Marriage is not a joke, and women are not slaves."

A mystery heckler flew two banners over Tiger's game at the Masters Golf Tournament yesterday:

The Chairman of the Augusta National Men's Golf Club made a big splash in the news yesterday by chastising Brother Tiger. The male-dominated media called it a "stern" and "harsh rebuke."

Bringing your dead father into your sex scandal, or using your dad to rehabilitate your career in a creepy Nike ad might be a better idea if your dad did not also cheat on his wife.

Raychel Coudriet is a 22-year-old girl who lives in Tiger Woods' Florida neighborhood. That alone means the odds of him sleeping with her are pretty high. He supposedly did just that, she alleges, and their alleged one-night stand took place less than a mile from his home. She recently decided to come clean.

Why? Like all the other Tiger Woods mistresses, she feels entitled to cash in, and is somehow shocked and livid that she was but one of many conquests. Dude was cheating on Elin Nordegren with all of them, keep in mind. According to sources, Tiger Woods and Raychel Coudriet met one night and hit it off. They began making out within sight of his house while Elin was home. They then had sex in a private office the superstar keeps nearby.

The Republican Party of Family Values gets stranger and stranger:

Normally, the Web sites of political parties are supposed to feature photos of beaming candidates alongside pleas for donations. But that’s not quite the case this afternoon over at the online portal of the Chicago Republican Party. The top of its site features a large photo of a topless woman in a seductive pose, followed by a strange and barely comprehensible essay about John Edwards's mistress Rielle Hunter’s upcoming interview with Oprah.

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Prince William and Kate Middleton got back together last year, and a new report suggests they won't be breaking up ever again. According to TheDailyBeast.com, the prince will likely propose to his girlfriend this summer. "A high-placed source in royal circles tells me that two days in June have been mysteriously blocked out on the palace diaries — June 3 and 4," said Tina Brown, who runs The Beast and has written a biography Princess Diana.

The Third Agreement: Don’t Make Assumptions

I used to joke that the only exercise I ever got was jumping to conclusions! And man, was I good at it!

When you don’t ask specific questions, then you have to assume your own answers and this, more often than not, leads to trouble. Why do we tend not to ask a simple question, yet would rather stew in our own misery of assumptions and bad guesses?

Just for today, don’t assume. You know what you get when you assume? Uh-huh!

STOP, TAKE A BREATH, and ASK a question.

Coach Carolyn

Don't let fear keep you from asking simple questions that will make life easier. Join the Transcending Fear Mentoring Program today!

A tearful and apparently heart-broken Munawar Toha pleads for the return of his missing wife: "Your children miss you. Please come home." (Watch it!)

People, or I should say some men, sure take their Penis Only clubs seriously. Martha Burke is getting death threats, again, for the crime of criticizing Augusta National's policy of discriminating against women.

"When you question your stressful thoughts, the freedom that comes out of that graces the world for all of us." ~ Byron Katie

When you are not experiencing inner peace, one thing to do is STOP, TAKE A BREATH, and ASK:

“What am I thinking about at this moment?”

Chances are you are thinking something stressful or rehashing and regurgitating thoughts from of old. Take the time to check in with yourself; especially when you are not feeling at peace.

When you are not feeling that peace or serenity, you are not in the present moment. Stress, fear, anxiety are not present moment feelings. You are either in the past or in the future. And why? You cannot change anything that has happened in the past and you cannot control the future. Yes, you can plan, and you need to do that; but plan, visualize and work in this moment to do what you need to do to make those plans a reality.

Stay in the present moment to maintain your inner peace.
Coach Carolyn

Quote of the Day

"There is no sex tape. There never has been one and there never will be one."

David "Pimped Out" Shuster is off the air.

You can't make this stuff up. Ignorant school officials in Fulton, Mississippi conspired to discriminate against Constance McMillen by sending her to a fake prom while the heterosexual kids partied at the real prom. What part of lawsuit do these a-holes not understand?

McMillen tells The Advocate that a parent-organized prom happened behind her back — she and her date were sent to a Friday night event at a country club in Fulton, Miss., that attracted only five other students. Her school principal and teachers served as chaperones, but clearly there wasn't much to keep an eye on.

"They had two proms and I was only invited to one of them," McMillen says. "The one that I went to had seven people there, and everyone went to the other one I wasn’t invited to."

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David Shuster is being punished by MSNBC, again. This time Shuster didn't get caught calling anybody a pimp or a whore. This time Shuster cheated on MSNBC by shooting a secret pilot for CNN. Things are not looking good for the poor jerk. Reportedly, MSNBC President Phil Griffin "ripped Shuster a new one over the phone" and will do it again in the office. MSNBC could only improve by dumping Shuster.

Shuster won't be on the air today for his 10 a.m. and 3 p.m. shows, according to MSNBC insiders. Whether he returns before his contract expires in December is up for debate. . In the past, MSNBC reps have been downright temperate in their official reactions to Shuster's mishaps. This time, however, they've taken a giant step - for MSNBC, anyway -- beyond temperate. If Shuster is guilty, he will "be punished appropriately."

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People in Republican areas, like Texas, are not mailing in their census forms. I think we can thank Rep. Michele Bachmann (R-MN) and her fellow conspiracy theorists for demonizing the census as an Unconstitutional Evil Socialist Big Government Plot to take away guns and lock up right-wingers in Japanese internment camps. Or something like that.

This is so funny. Tiger Woods reportedly lives in fear of his former mistresses. Woods has hired 90 bodyguards to protect him from his 2 dozen mistresses while he plays golf at the Masters Golf Tournament. That's almost 4 bodyguards per mistress!

A virtual army of private bodyguards - about 90 in all - will be protecting Tiger Woods when he returns to golf this week at the Masters, London's Sunday Mail reported Saturday. Woods' vast security detail will include former FBI and Secret Service agents, as well as armed deputies - all of whom are believed to have received photos of the golf great's sexual conquests.

The world's best-known philanderer reportedly fears a confrontation with one of his more than two dozen alleged mistresses. "None of these girls are allowed anywhere near him," a security guard told the Sunday Mail. "If one photo comes out of a beautiful lady touching him, it would be a disaster. . Eight guards will be surrounding Woods "as a last line of defense," the paper says.

BREAKING NEWS: Tiger At Masters - Without Elin

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All bets are on liberal Justice John Paul Stevens retiring this year. But when asked, Stevens leaves himself lots of room: "I will retire within the next three years." Justice Stevens is 90 years old. A summer fight over the next Supreme Court Justice is one way to warm up for the midterm election.