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Have a great weekend!
Coach Carolyn

“Two thousand years ago, a great master said, ‘And you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free.’…

Imagine living without fear, without judgment, without blame, without guilt, without shame. Imagine living your life without trying to please other people’s points of view, and not even your own point of view according to your own book of law. Imagine how different your life would be in you lived with gratitude, love, loyalty, and justice, beginning with yourself. Just imagine the union between you and your body if you were completely loyal to your body, if you were completely grateful for your body, if you treated your body with justice. Imagine being yourself, and not trying to convince anybody of anything. Imagine that just by being yourself, you are happy, and that wherever you go, heaven is going with you, because you are heaven. Imagine living with this kind of freedom. Yes, the truth will set you free, but first you need to see the truth.”
~ From The Fifth Agreement by Don Miguel and Don Jose Ruiz

Just imagine...
Coach Carolyn

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“Sometimes you have to let everything go – purge yourself. If you are unhappy with anything – whatever is bringing you down – get rid of it. Because you will find that when you are free, your true creativity, your true self comes out.” ~ Tina Turner

I have definitely found this to be the case for myself. It wasn’t until I had to let go – because by the time I was ready to let go, I had to let go – that something bigger, better and more magnificent came my way. I was no longer bogged down with things that zapped my energy and my creativity. I was truly free; and at peace.

Just for today, examine your life and make the conscious decision to let go of what is draining you of your creative energy and obstructing your flow. You’ll be glad you did.

Here’s to letting go,
Coach Carolyn

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“You can never become a great man or woman until you have overcome anxiety, worry, and fear. It is impossible for an anxious person, a worried one, or a fearful one to perceive truth; all things are distorted and thrown out of their proper relations by such mental states, and those who are in them cannot read the thoughts of God.” ~ Wallace D. Wattles

We live in a world of wonderful connections and relationships. Yet, there is something that looms within those connections and relationships that keep us stuck, keep us struggling, keep us broke, and keep us falling into habit patterns that simply do not serve. That something is fear. As Wattles says in The Science of Getting Rich, when we are fearful we cannot perceive truth or properly connect with God or one another.

I have read that most relationships end because of lack of communication. I believe the underlying agent is fear. Why can't we communicate properly? We are afraid of what the other might think.... We are afraid of being rejected.... We are afraid of being hurt.... We are afraid of looking stupid.... And on and on and on it goes. Why are we so afraid? Beliefs, habits and paradigms that do not serve us.

Then we get into another relationship that looks exactly like the one we just got out of or even more toxic. The cycle continues. It is time to get off of the merry-go-round of fear and anxiety. Life is meant to be about ease and flow, not effort and fear. Unfortunately, I see more of the latter than the former. I can see it very clearly because I used to be smack dab in the center of it. I was afraid of everything. Growing up in violence, fear was the name of the game. So, I learned to disappear and it served me well - too well, I may add.

I finally made the decision to get off the fear merry-go-round. But it was not easy. It still is not easy; but because I made the decision, I did it. I had to get in alignment with what the universe had in store for me. Today, I have the tools in my toolkit to release the fears that hold me back and keep me stuck, and transcend the fears that are working for my highest good.

If you too are ready to release limiting beliefs and fears that keep you stuck, then join the Transcending Fear Mentoring Program. Stop letting your fears keep you from the connections and relationships you were destined to have.

Here's to transcending your fears!
Coach Carolyn

“A person’s way of doing things is the direct result of the way they think about things.” ~ Wallace Wattles from The Science of Getting Rich

It wasn’t until I became aware of my thinking that life got clear for me. Before I became aware, it was as if I was wading through muddy waters. Like the Apostle Paul mentions in one of his letters, it was like I was “seeing through a glass darkly.” And because I was seeing so murky, I was not aware that I was living a life of insanity. We know that Einstein said that insanity was doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result. Unfortunately, we do the same thing over and over and over and wonder why we get the same results. This is because in our heads, we know what we want to happen; we know what we want the outcome to look like – but for some reason, it’s not happening.

This can be extremely confusing, especially since we know what we want. But do we really? Perhaps we do, but I know that what we say we want and what we think about wanting are usually two very different things. So what shows up in our life? The thing we don’t want! Why? Because that was our dominant thought and it was the thought we put the most energy into – whether we did it consciously or not. Even if the energy we expended was negative energy, it’s still energy. The universe does not know the difference, nor care.

If we plant sweet corn or if we plant a deadly poison, the earth will give us the fruits of our labor – either the sweet corn or the deadly poison. The earth neither knows the difference nor discriminates between the two. It is the same with our thoughts. I know that it can be very difficult to become aware of what you are thinking about most of the time, as it was for me. But you know, once you do become aware, and make the decision to focus on what you think about, life will begin to fall into place.

I now saturate my mind with positive images, messages, and sounds. From the time I get up in the morning to the time I go to bed in the evening, I am listening to positive audio books, audio lessons, I read books that speak peace and prosperity and I do not allow negativity to enter in. I stopped watching the news and reading newspapers about twelve years ago because they were so negative and violent. I mainly stopped because they upset me psychically and shook my senses. But this practice has served me in more ways than this. I do know what is going on in the world – at least what I am interested in knowing. I really don’t care who sleeps with whom and which celebrity got a nip and tuck. This does not serve me nor help me to create a life on purpose.

Think about what you think about. We think approximately 60,000 thought a day and about 40,000 of them are repetitive and very likely self-abusive. Wake up to your life. It is time to stop sleepwalking and take responsibility for your own life. Get off the treadmill of insanity.

I suggest you read Wallace Wattles’ The Science of Getting Rich. You can download the e-book for free or get the audio. I listen to it every night as I am drifting off to sleep. I also read a passage or two every day. It has helped me tremendously with my thinking. Now, I think more consciously and more deliberately. My productivity, focus, and concentration have also improved. I no longer wander aimlessly. It’s time to get your life back on track. Yes, you may have derailed, but you don’t have to stay there. Remember, it’s your choice.

Here’s to your success!
Coach Carolyn

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“Be patient toward all that is unsolved in your heart and try to love the questions themselves. Do not now seek the answers, which cannot be given you because you would not be able to live them. And the point is to live everything. Live the questions” ~ Rainer Maria Rilke

“What are your recent obstacles; and how can you turn them into opportunities?”

“You can tell whether a woman is clever by her answers. You can tell whether she is wise by her questions.” ~ attributed to Naguib Mahfouz

Live your questions!
Coach Carolyn

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“All humans are artists, all of us. Every symbol, every word, is a little piece of art. From my point of view, and thanks to our programming, our greatest masterpiece of art is the use of a language to create an entire virtual reality within our mind. The virtual reality we create could be a clear reflection of the truth, or it could be completely distorted. Either way, it’s art. Our creation could be our personal heaven, or it could be our personal hell. It doesn’t matter; it’s art. But what can we do with the awareness of what is truth and what is virtual is endless. The truth leads to self-mastery, to a life that’s very easy; our distortion of the truth often leads to needless conflict and human suffering. Awareness makes all the difference.” ~ From The Fifth Agreement by Don Miguel and Don Jose Ruiz

So, what kind of art are you creating? Well, take a look at your life; your inner life and your outer life. This is your own personal heaven or your personal hell. It's all about choice; and the choice is yours.

Which art are you choosing to create?
Coach Carolyn

“As we ask questions and seek our purpose, we look for answers both inside and outside ourselves. We learn from others; our own experience; books, workshops, teachers, and mentors; and our painful mistakes. We receive many messages – some of them mixed – about what we’re supposed to be doing with our lives and what will make us feel as if we’re on the right path toward happiness, fulfillment, and a sense of meaning.” ~ From The Won Thing by Peggy McColl

Yes, I have done all of the above, only to discover that I really did not have to look very far for all the answers I was seeking. In my many years of working with women and men in helping them find their passion and purpose, I see so many nix the idea that the answers are already within. The question that baffled me for so long was why were we placed on this earth without a roadmap? Come to discover, we weren’t. We were given very special and very personalized roadmaps. We have just misplaced them!

We were all incarnated on this dear earth to deliver our own very special and very unique messages; but we seem to have forgotten the message. So, we wander around as messengers without the message. Instead of stopping, taking a breath, and asking ourselves some simple questions, we fret, worry, doubt, get anxious, become fearful and lose our way.

Think about this: butterflies, sunflowers, birds, you name it - never forget their message. They never forget what they have come here to do. Just stop and think about this. I double dare you!

As I always say – stopping is a spiritual action. Take some time to stop and remember the message you came here to deliver. Once you do, you will be amazed at how everything else in your life just falls into place.

Here’s to living your best life!
Coach Carolyn

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Why should we care about raising our consciousness? When we set an intention to change and grow, we begin a journey in which we move from coping, to learning and finally, to the enjoyment of living.

Here are some of the shifts we move through:

~ From dependence on the clock, to charting a direction, to moment-to-moment guidance from intuition.
~ From doing things right, to doing the right things, to being your true self.
~ From lack of self discipline to having personal willpower to serving divine will.
~ From being out of control, to being in control, to trusting and letting go of the need to control.

With each step, we experience greater freedom, fulfillment and joy. Worth going for, don’t you think?

“Every human has four endowments - self awareness, conscience, independent will and creative imagination. These give us the ultimate human freedom... The power to choose, to respond, to change.” ~ Stephen R. Covey

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Here's to your shift!
Coach Carolyn

“When opportunity comes, it appears in a different form and from a different direction. That is one of the tricks of opportunity. It has a sly habit of slipping in by the back door, and often comes disguised in the form of misfortune or temporary defeat. Perhaps this is why so many fail to recognize opportunity.

“Before success comes to most people, they are sure to meet with much temporary defeat, and perhaps some failure. When faced with defeat the easiest and most logical thing to do is to quit.” ~ From Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill

I found myself picking up this book this past weekend and re-reading this particular passage. I have read this passage dozens of times, but needed to read it again. You see, this past weekend I was dealing with a computer virus; and my antivirus would not kick in and do its job. As my dear laptop Luna Sophia is four years old, she is extremely slow and packed full of junk. So my only option was to reboot and restore back to factory settings. And no, I did not have a backup – so I lost everything!

As I was waiting for the process of the reboot to finish, I got the urge to pick up Hill’s book – it’s right by my bed – and re-read the above passage. All of a sudden, I got a burst of new energy. I felt as if I was given a reprieve. I thought about how I could consciously and mindfully choose to restore my data. I was going to use a browser that I liked; I was not going to load it with programs that would slow it down; and I would feed it and myself only positive mindset programs and materials – as this is my new path in life.

I could not wait to get up this morning and make my conscious decisions about what I would install onto my “new” computer. And whoa! Does it run so much faster! And space? Can we talk?

Instead of seeing every obstacle or defeat as just stumbling blocks strategically placed to ruin your day, look for the opportunities in them. As Hill said, most people will see these temporary defeats as just give up, not looking beyond them for the lessons, the blessings, and the testings.

So, just for today, STOP, TAKE A BREATH, and ASK:

“How can I see the beauty in everything and everyone that crosses my path?” Especially the not so beautiful!

Learn to turn your obstacles into opportunities!
Coach Carolyn

"Love is a symbol of eternity. It wipes out all sense of time, destroying all memory of a beginning and all fear of an end." ~ Author Unknown

I have noticed that it is easy for women to say they love someone – a significant other, a child, a pet, a dear friend, and the like. Yet, how hard is it for women to say they love themselves. Because...well, do they? I dare say they do not.

As women, we are our own worst enemies. We beat up on ourselves worse than we would allow anyone else to be beaten up on. And yet, we are constantly looking for love. Now I ask? How do we receive love from another when we have difficulty giving love to ourselves?

In my twenty plus years of working with women’s groups, I can pretty quickly tell when a woman does not love herself. She puts out a vibe that screams quite loudly – at least to my ears. This is the woman I want to be around the least. And guess what? Did you ask ‘what’? Well, no one else wants to be around her either! So there!

Oscar Wilde once said, "To love oneself is the begining of a life-long romance."

So for this lovely Saint Valentine’s weekend, STOP, TAKE A BREATH, and ASK:

“Who am I?”

When you don’t know who you are, it is very difficult to fall in love with yourself. When you can get in touch with who you truly are, a whole new world opens up to you; a world filled with lots of expression of love.

If you want to check in with how you are living your agreements – STOP, TAKE A BREATH, and ASK:

“Am I using my words to heal or to harm?”

“Does what I’m about to say need to be said?”

“Is silence a better option right now?”

As February is about love and all that good stuff, it reminds me of the time I was elected to plan my boss’ baby shower (back in the day when I had a J.O.B.). Why me? Who knows. And I had to do this, from start to finish, on the sneak – of course, the boss was not to know. My boss, Lisa, was a sweetheart. Her new husband was a doctor and she was always happy. So, when I was chosen to give the shower, I was happy to do it; even though I had no idea what to do. Who me? Pick out baby shower favors? Uh huh!

First thing I needed to do was take up a collection from the staff. Yeah right, this would be fun; going around asking folks for money. I thought I would have to put the squeeze on, not to mention my pitiful sales pitch. To my shock and surprise, the staff forked over their hard earned cash like the Saturday night mega lottery. I collected enough to give her a beautiful surprise baby shower. I knew the theme of her nursery – Winnie the Pooh – this was the theme of the shower.

On the day of the shower, I asked the head hoo-ha if I could use his BIG office for the shower. Since he forked over the most money, he was pleased to oblige. I turned his BIG macho office into Pooh land. I even sprinkled colored candies all over the tables – folks loved that little touch. The favors were candies in cellophane Pooh wrap - which was easy because this group loved sweets!

I had to get all the folks to Pooh land and school them on the yelling surprise drill. I went to bring Lisa to her surprise shower telling her that the big boss wanted to chat with her. I made up some swanky lie as to why I had to escort her, but she had no idea. I will never forget the look on her face when she walked into that office. Everyone yelled surprise and she spent the rest of the afternoon opening up Pooh gifts.

So, the moral of this little share is, if I can do it, anyone can. And I had one heck of a great time doing it; a do-it-yourself in the office baby shower. I still remember it all, seventeen years later. Good Lord, Lisa’s child is seventeen years old! I wonder if he still plays with his Pooh bear….

As February is the month of love and valentines, it’s also a lovely month for weddings. As purposeful gals, we can plan a wedding without having it stress us out. Interestingly, the weddings I have seen with the most stress, ended sooner. Why allow the day that should be one of the most special of days, be a day from hell? Refuse to go there! Instead, make your day a memorable day for everyone involved – starting with the wedding favors.

Now, I have attended lots of weddings. Don’t ask me how I got so lucky! But the most memorable weddings were the ones with really unique wedding favors. Not fancy or costly, but very clever, tasteful and thoughtful. You know, the ones you can tell that there was actually some thought put into them?

One such wedding, the couple themed each reception table with a special city they had been. The favor was a chocolate miniature figurine denoting that city with a little story attached of why it was memorable to them. Not only were the favors lovely, but I got to learn more about the couple. It was something straight from their hearts. I went around to the other tables to learn more. It was so much fun!

This wasn’t an expensive favor, but it was priceless. This particular couple now has two beautiful children and I still remember their wedding. Let your wedding be a memorable one; remembering the sentiments, not the stress.

“We plant seeds that will flower as results in our lives, so best to remove the weeds of anger, avarice, envy and doubt, that peace and abundance may manifest for all.” ~ Dorothy Day

One of the analogies that really resonated with me when I first heard it was the Universe does not care which seeds you plant – it will give you the harvest of those seeds. So if you plant sweet corn or you plant poisonous nightshade, the soil does not care – you will reap exactly what you sow.

I call this the Law of the Harvest. What you put in is what you will get out. If I squeeze an orange, no matter which way I squeeze, I will get orange juice. And it does not matter who does the squeezing, orange juice will come out. What comes out if I put the squeeze on you? Anger? Resentment? Bitterness?

Just for today, watch your harvest; because what you plant today, you will get back tomorrow.

"Your imagination is your preview of life's coming attractions." ~ Albert Einstein

Napoleon Hills said, “Fear is faith in reverse gear. Fear is a negative belief in something, and belief is the very foundation of faith. Faith is a positive mental attitude in action. Your mental attitude is the sum total of your thoughts at any given time.”

When we were children, we had no problem activating our wonderful gift of imagination. We could imagine anything. I remember when my family would purchase a large household item, like a new television or a washing machine. I was enthralled with the big box that it came in. That box became my fort, my playhouse, my spaceship, my doll house, you name it. And I had no shortage of ideas for what to use that box for. Unfortunately, we were talked out of using that magnificent gift. We had to grow up, be realistic, and get our heads out of the clouds.

But I have some amazing news for you. You still have that gift – yes, it is still a part of you, and you have the ability to activate it anytime you choose. And you want to know something else? You do activate it, quite frequently. The difference is instead of imagining what you do want, you imagine what you do not want, and thus creating a reality that mirrors your imagination. Instead of focusing on your dreams and intentions, you give excessive amounts of attention to your fears and worries. And guess what shows up in your life? You bet! More of your fears and worries.

Just for today, STOP, TAKE A BREATH, and ASK:

“What am I giving most of my attention to right now?” Especially if you are not feeling well emotionally.

Remember, your thoughts precede your feelings; so if you are not feeling okay, then check in with what you are thinking about. You have the ability to choose a different thought; one that is more pleasant; thus making you feel better. Be proactive with your thoughts and your imagination. Use them to create the life you desire.

Here’s to dreaming in color!
Coach Carolyn

"Once you believe that answers and resources can show up in your life, they will: The universe works to mirror your beliefs. It will prove you right every time." ~ Peggy McColl

Having an issue with procrastination? First, STOP, TAKE A BREATH, and ASK:

“Is this something I want to do or that I should do?”
“Is this something that is related to my passion? If not, why do I need to do it?”

When you are following your passion and your purpose, life opens up to you; you don’t have to work hard. You work hard when you are out of alignment with who you are meant to BE. And when you are being who you were created to be, the DO will show up and guide you effortlessly.

Two Rules for the Day:
1. Stop “shoulding” all over yourself.
2. Stay out of the “how” because how is none of your business.