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Some of us are incredibly enthusiastic about our bodies. But for many of us it's a long and hard internal battle that we fight every day.

The promise of a "new sexy you" is the basis of the entire beauty and fashion industry. We are continually encouraged to "find our perfect palette" complete the "6-week body makeover," and change our hair color to "transform our life." The traditional makeover inevitably injects us with a serious dose of insecurity and inadequacy. Why must we feel prospectively bad about ourselves so that we can retrospectively feel better? Hmm. Something about the whole damn concept seems rather backward.

We are plucked, buffed, preened, and altered. But at the end of this elaborate, time-consuming, and often painful makeover experience, are we experiencing more sexual pleasure? We think not.

Our culture is obsessed with the female body. Today the bar for normality is set in the pages of InStyle, Vogue, and Elle. We should look just like celebrities and models. We need to be perfect. Free of cellulite. Free of wrinkles. Free of blemishes. Free of anything unsightly. Simply divine.

Let's get real!

This model of the female body is pure fantasy. Our bodies go through changes every day and every year as we grow as women. Some of these changes are related to our cycles, and others are unpredictable. We get PMS, we ovulate, we get pregnant, get fit, get sick, get tattoos, have surgery -- and our libidos are rolled up in all of these transformations. In fact, our reproductive capacity necessitates that our weight and bodily proportions naturally change from puberty to menopause, and for good reason. Ironically, most women spend their entire adult lives struggling against nature.

Pleasure Tip: Redefining what a sexy woman looks like is up to us. Let those women's magazines know how tired you are of the unrealistic images in their glossy pages. Sign an open letter to the editors of your favorite women's magazine, and cut the last strings of your bad-body-image dependencies.

We generally understand sexual energy as an emotional tension, usually followed by a pleasant euphoric sensation when released. But instead, imagine allowing this energy to spread throughout your entire body and absorbing it energetically through all your cells.

When you are having sex, do you analyze what you are doing while in the middle of making love? I’m sure you have answered no! When children run around madly full of this vibrant pulsating energy (that we experience as sex) it spreads through their entire body and they express it as joy instead. Hence they have not begun to interpret and analyze it with their mind. The child doesn’t sit back and say, ‘I’m tired now, I want to have a rest’ during their play, as we do when sexual tension is released.

What we really have here is simply energy with only our own labels added on. As soon as a person comes into maturity this energy is polarized and sexual activity commences. It marks the beginning of the aging process simply because we separate ourselves from this wonderful joy - energy. When sexual energy spreads throughout your body, it gives you that orgasmic feeling. It energizes your body and prolongs enjoyment between yourself and your partner.

Sexual energy is an emotion that you can activate to get the full effect of energy. So are gratitude, love, appreciation, and acknowledgement emotions. If having sex can be compared to the lower notes upon the musical scale, then these other emotions like gratitude, love, appreciation, acknowledgement etc., would be the higher notes or chakras upon the scale. We all know how important these emotions are and how we crave to feel them. Imagine for a moment that if you cannot get these higher tender emotions communicated, it’s natural to go for the most commonly obtainable ones, the emotions you get from sex. (not sure what you’re trying to say here)

Recent research has shown that when the coccyx is stimulated in women who have never been able to orgasm, they easily begin to do so and enjoy a wonderful sexual sensation. We can now reclaim this energy by simply connecting to it using a simple exercise. But how do you maintain this sort of connection on a conscious level without actually having sex?

Exercise is one of the ways to energize your body using emotions. But what if you could have all these other sensations at any time instead of waiting for the only one you know you can get from sex?

To hook up to your joy at will using emotions as a way to open yourself to have more pleasurable all over sensations is like playing more than one note upon the scale which enhances your sexual experience as well.

One of these higher notes upon the emotional scale is gratitude. We forget to be grateful for many things in our life and instead focus on negative images. Another higher note is appreciation such as having an engaging hobby or enjoying the company of a special friend. Expressing to your partner what you value or treasure about them and sincerely communicating through your eyes along with taking the time to express your feelings will increase the whole sexual level between both of you because of how the other will receive your genuine expressions. This is what stimulates all the notes upon the scale and the whole sexual dynamic as you felt it long ago and is the key to this exercise.

This is the whole reason sex was so much more exciting at the beginning of our lives. We have just forgotten this priceless gift because we took it for granted way back then. The appreciation level is what ignites the body centers and is a feeling experienced at the heart centre (chakra), the main activator of energy. We are not consciously aware of this, therefore we lose it later on and the whole partner search has to happen all over again until we can learn how to do this on a conscious level.

Sharing feelings openly enables us to feel more deeply and experience a heart connection and loving relationship with others. Love is a cohesive force that acts as a rejuvenator for our whole system. It helps us maintain stronger health, gives longevity and greater joy, as well as makes relaxation, a sense of adventure and spontaneity more available in our daily lives. Connecting to your love energy consciously gives the body a re-charge, promotes deep inner healing and revives sexual pleasure warmth and connection with your partner.

It also enhances your creativity, enthusiasm and drive and has a positive effect on your self-esteem and confidence. It energizes your organs and gives you a greater sense of vitality all over

Hence when we act whole heartedly, it brings our whole life energy into greater focus enabling us to be more present to everything that happens in our life making the sexual experience better than ever before. It becomes a beginning to a whole new way of experiencing lovemaking and takes your energy to a whole new level as your personal wow factor!

THE ENERGY CONTROL TECHNIQUE acts like a switch that stimulates your enthusiasm by boosting your own sexual energy. It can be used in any area of your life. Health, career, relationships or even improve your golf.

It’s all about focus – whatever you focus your mind upon; you will draw that into your life…...

HERE ARE - SOME EXAMPLES OF ENERGY CONTROL

An insurance guy will get you to focus upon your worst fear, you buy into the fear game and he has sold you the insurance.

If you fear spiders let’s say, you will inadvertently focus on them.

By focusing on what you want or don’t want you draw that very thing to you in some ‘magical’ way, whether it’s positive or negative.

When ordering from the menu in a restaurant, you tell the waiter what you want and you expect to get what you have ordered. You don’t sit there wondering if he will bring you what you don’t want, do you?

I usually demonstrate in a seminar how to use our internal switch that stimulates our erroneous zones – similar to foreplay. It involves 4 simple steps. This is one of the steps you could try for yourself:

For ladies try massaging your nipples try not to go into the whole sexual fantasy, remember you are doing this for a different reason here. The reason is to feel how your body is going to feel with this nice feeling that you are causing to cascade throughout you own body. You can do this under a shower for a bit or upon waking in the morning.

For guys start the self pleasuring process, and allow yourself to feel how nice it feels, but with the object here to keep the energy flowing, not to ejaculate. Remember you are not masturbating.

When you succeed in recognizing that you are indeed feeling very different from when you first started, try holding onto this energy and taking this into your day. To learn how to do this successfully, come to the seminar where you will learn how to perfect this technique so it becomes a mood enhancer.

By acknowledging the divinity in one another we evoke that presence in ourselves and the other. This is the heart of all relationships - at a deeper level where lovers are equal opposites of each another.

Tatiana ~ Tat O’Per

Don’t you just hate those days when your sweetheart turns into an over - emotional monster. Her mood swings leave you confused and wondering, what have you done to deserve this?

Well, the fact that you are reading this shows that either, you really care for your girl or her PMS has driven you round the bend and you need desperate help and guidance. Either ways, reading this will not only leave you wiser and more knowledgeable but once you get the hang of dealing with the monster you will have the cutting edge of understanding girls which the less fortunate guys will not have. This is one thing if you master and understand or even reach a position wherein you can empathise with a girl you will automatically have a higher level of respect in her eyes for you. [Provided you use the information you gain only when it’s required and not use this as a topic of entertainment and gossip]

They ideally should have taught this in school. Anyways - Better late than never.
Let’s begin with the basics:

Facing the facts:

What & When?

PMS: Pre Menstrual Syndrome is the name of a group of symptoms that start one to two weeks before her period. These symptoms usually go away soon after her period starts.

Characteristics

Over 150 symptoms have been attributed to PMS After complaints of feeling "out-of-control", anxious, depressed and having uncontrollable crying spells, the most common complaints are headache and fatigue. But symptoms may vary from month to month and there may even be symptom-free months.

Characteristically symptoms may be both physical and emotional. They may include physical symptoms as headache, migraine, fluid retention, fatigue, constipation, painful joints, backache, abdominal cramping, heart palpitations and weight gain. Emotional and behavioral changes may include anxiety, depression, irritability, panic attacks, tension, lack of co-ordination, decreased work or social performance and altered libido.

Originally described in 1931 by an American neurologist, the grouping of symptoms has remained the same:
A- Anxiety: irritable, crying without reason, verbally and sometimes physically abuse, feeling "out of control", or Dr. Jekyll – Mr. Hyde behavior changes.
D- Depression: confused, clumsy, forgetful, withdrawn, fearful, paranoid, suicidal thoughts and rarely suicidal actions.
C- Cravings: food cravings, usually for sweets or chocolate; diary products including cheese, an on occasion, alcohol or food in general.
H- Heaviness or Headache: Fluid retention leading to headache, breast tenderness, abdominal bloating and weight gain.

WHY?
No one knows for sure. All women have changes in their hormone levels during their menstrual cycle. The female hormone estrogen starts to rise after menstruation and peaks around mid-cycle (ovulation). It then rapidly drops only to slowly rise and then fall again in the time before menstruation. These changes in turn trigger changes in chemical messengers (also known as neurotransmitters) in the brain which affects their mood, emotions, sleep, appetite and thinking. Estrogen holds fluid and with increasing estrogen comes fluid retention: many women report weight gains of five pounds premenstrually. Estrogen also contributes to retention of salt and a drop in blood sugar.

SYMPTOMS:
The Physical Aspect of things:

PMS affects girls in many different ways, and a girl won't act or feel the same every single time, either. Some months, she'll breeze through it without a care (and rejoice in the fact, as soon as she realizes that she didn't have any PMS this time).

Other months, it'll fall on her like a ton of bricks. She'll drag around, feeling fat and miserable and oily and pimply and ugly as hell. Don't get too annoyed about that, because girls really do retain water, and even if you can't see the difference, she can. Worse, she can feel it: a body puffier than the day before. Sometimes it's like waking up in the wrong body; nothing fits right, her body doesn't move like it normally does, and all she’ll do is fidget and slump and want to hide underneath four really baggy layers of clothing. Plus, the hormones cause some pretty crazy break-outs, so her skin feels awkward and greasy and just plain yucky. And that's just the physical part.

The Emotional Side of it:

There are the mood swings. Unpredictable, unnecessary, evil, exhausting mood swings. Some girls get really weepy, some get really short-tempered, and others experience a delightful combination of the two. One of my friends cried because it was raining. But, girls can't help it. I am sure that even you must have witnessed this kind of an emotional outburst. The littlest things can set off another crying jag, or the smallest, most unnoticeable slight can cause a girl to sit around bawling, convinced she's useless, worthless, and not going anywhere in life.

It is normal for men who do not understand some things about their better halves to usually be unsympathetic and unwilling to even listen about it even though she is the one that have to deal with it.

Don't assume that these emotions are induced a specific time of the month that means she does not really feel the way she is feeling. If she's mad at you, guess what? She really is mad at you. It's not like she is delusional. She knows what she’s thinking, and belittling her or dismissing her concerns that she brings up during the dark hours of the lunar cycle will only throw you farther into the dog house. If she is crying, guess what? She’s really sad, and she will do drastic things when she is empowered by estrogen and whatever other pheromones are pumping through her blood.

So is there anything you, as a guy can do? Yes!!

Surprising, I know. Especially because you sit there thinking, "But when she's like that, I can barely do anything right. Making her feel better is inconceivable!"

Well, it's simpler than it looks. The most important thing to remember is that your girlfriend is probably more sensitive at this time than she usually is. Not that you need to walk on eggshells, but make sure you're a little more on the lookout for the kinds of comments that might make her feel bad or the random moments when you might inadvertently blow her off or ignore her.

A little extra effort goes a long way. Think about it this way: isn't it easier to spend 10 or 15 minutes making your girlfriend feel better than to spend three days avoiding her at all costs and fighting a lot? The reality is that she's going to have PMS whether she wants to or not, but neither of you has to be miserable. So, why not try and help out?

Also, keep in mind that since PMS is kind of like super-advanced stress, the following ideas can be used to make a stressed out girl feel better too.

Tools to help

1. Use a calendar - a little knowledge of the biological workings of PMS can go a long way. Most women run between a 28 to 32 day menstrual cycle, which means they go through "that time of the month," literally every month. If we figure that a month averages 30 days. Most women are cyclical. This means that once they are on a specific cycle, barring undue stresses or physical problems in her life, she’ll be “regular." This means you can usually figure out when PMS will strike and when it won't. So, keep a calendar handy and mark down the days she has her period (PMS happens before the first day of a woman's period). After a few months, you should be able to pinpoint what her cycle is.

2. Be understanding - since PMS happens anywhere from 2 to 14 days prior to a woman's first period day, this is where life for a guy can be most difficult if she exhibits typical symptoms of PMS like irritability, anxiety, being overly emotional, depression, headaches, anger, and insomnia. Be aware that you shouldn't take what happens during this time too personally.

3. Pamper, pamper, Pamper - pamper your woman during the PMS time. She'll appreciate you more if you can be supportive. Give her lots of love and hugs. Sometimes the best is to just hug and not say a word.

4. Be aware - once you've figured out the cycle, you then have a better idea of when a better time to bring up different subjects may be. If she has exhibited signs of being overly emotional during you may want to hold off on seeing a sad movie or perhaps not visiting your parents who may not be quite as supportive of your relationship as you'd like them to be.

5. Be prepared - don't be surprised if the she asks you the unanswerable question, "do you think I look fat?" This is instant death for any guy who has been asked this question. If you say NO, she'll really not believe you, and if you say YES, you are obviously in deep doo-doo. You'll have to decide what the lesser of the two evils will be. I don't recommend ignoring the woman though - so you may want to say "no" but follow it up with lots of hugs and compliments to reassure her that she is the most beautiful woman in your life (and MEAN IT!)

6. Communicate - be open and able to talk about PMS. There are medications and homeopathic remedies that can quell some of the PMS symptoms or even get rid of them all together. Let the woman know that you are aware of her cycle and that you are not treating PMS as a taboo subject. She'll feel good knowing that you've taken the time to understand her better and this should help to breed even better communications for you as a couple.

Join in the Emotional fight against PMS (and stress)!

1. Ask her if you can do anything

I'm sure most of you know this, and in fact do this, so you're probably thinking, "I'm not stupid. Of course I ask. She just bites my head off anyway." Well, think about how you ask her, the tone of your voice and the words you choose. Are you gentle? Do you let her know that if she wants you to go away, it's perfectly fine to say so, and that you'll just leave her alone until she feels better? But don’t literally leave her alone feeling miserable about herself just quietly be there.

Sometimes, a girl doesn't know what she wants, and that's a problem. She feels like no one loves her and everyone's out to get her. But rather than get annoyed with her tell her honestly, if she needs anything, whether it's a big hug, a shoulder rub, a chocolate or a big tub of ice cream, you'll be there for her. Just knowing that you're aware of what's going on, that you really do care, and you'll go out of your way to do something nice will probably make her feel better. Or, the knowledge that if she wants to be alone you can go off and fend for yourself will make it a lot easier for her to let you know what she needs.

2. Chocolate, tea, and magazines in bed

Chocolate, as we all know, can improve people's moods. I never believed the whole “chocolate-craving-while-PMSing “in the beginning, but then it happened to me. Not every time, and not in huge quantities, but I've definitely had the craving. Sometimes it's for anything sweet, and sometimes it's specifically for chocolate. It can provide a bit of temporary relief. And no, it doesn't make sense for a girl to say "I'm fat and bloated" and "I want some chocolate" in the span of five minutes, but this is PMS we're dealing with.

3. Making sense is not the point.

Sometimes, when a girl's feeling all crabby and dumpy and lame, all she wants to do is go home, crawl under the covers, and read stupid girl magazines which require about four ounces of brain power to read (even though those stupid girl magazines sometimes make her feel worse about herself because everyone just looks so thin. Have another bonbon, sweetheart). Plus, a cup of tea is really comforting and warm.

A lovely thing would be to come home from work and find a nicely made bed with her favorite chocolate or sweet lying on the pillow, next to two or three favorite magazines she hasn't read yet. When she gets home, if you're there, tell her to put her pajamas on and get under the covers with her treats as a cup of tea will be in shortly. Bring her the tea, give her a kiss on the forehead and tell her she's beautiful. Tell her that if she needs anything else, you're in the next room. If you have to leave before she gets there, leave her a little note that says, "Hey baby, just thought you'd like to crawl under the covers and forget about stuff for a few minutes. Ignore the phone when it rings, except at 9 when I call to say good night. Oh and there's a cup of tea waiting to be made in the kitchen."
And don't forget to call at 9.

3. A hot bath

If you've never tried relaxing in a nice hot bath, you should. After all, hot tubs aren't girly, so why should hot baths be? Girls, of course, have long known the powers of the hot bath and appreciate time in the tub. So go find your local "stinky store." You know the one. Every time you walk by, the scent of a thousand candles and soaps assaults you and drives you away (unless your girlfriend drags you in, at which point your sinuses explode and you can't smell anything for the next three hours). It's time to be brave. Go in one of those stores and put on your best "I'm lost but cute" face. Tell the salesperson you really want

to buy something to make your girlfriend feel better, because she's very stressed and tearful and you just need to do something. Guaranteed you will have all the help you can handle, and everyone will love you and think you're a saint.
Make sure you get a few nice candles and some bath oil (maybe some nice lotion with the same scent) or bubble bath. Don't get anything too overpowering (migraine headaches are common around PMS time), and make sure it's something that smells good to you. After all, it's going to be all over your girl's skin, so you better enjoy it too. Meet your girlfriend at her house, put the goods in the bathroom, and direct her to draw a hot bath, using the stuff you bought. While she's getting ready, bring her a cup of tea, a glass of water, and find out if she wants a book or some music. Then instruct her to not leave the bathtub until she's fully soaked. Let her know that all phone calls and potential interruptions will be fielded by you until she's ready to emerge. Then shut the door. When she comes out, all soft and warm and relaxed, chances are she'll hug you and fall face down onto her bed. Hey, a happy sleeping girlfriend is better than a wide-awake bitchy one, right?

Things We DON'T Recommend You Say to a Woman with PMS

• Why are you overreacting?
• Aw, c'mon-that PMS stuff is all in your head!
• Hey, what happened to that big bag of chips we had?
• Surprise! I invited the boss and his wife over for dinner tonight.
• Hey, those jeans used to be real loose on you, didn't they?
• I told my mother she could come live with us, okay?
• Tell her that she has got a pimple on her face
• Tell her how worn down she is looking

Don't make the mistake of blaming the PMS...Face it…it’s a FACT…NOT Hallucination.

By: treasuredbrook@yahoo.com

Male or female infertility usually accounts for about 40% cases. For men, the fault lies with the sperms (quality & quantity) while in women is more complex.

Let us take a look over the major reasons of infertility in women:

Pelvic Inflammatory Disease- is one of the major causes worldwide caused due to infections in the pelvic region that affect the reproductive organs. This is generally caused by the sexually transmitted diseases, pelvic tuberculosis, unhealthy abortions and more. Normally 20% of the women who have PID become infertile.

Endometriosis- This disorder develops when fragments of the endometrial lining, instead of being expelled from the uterus into the vagina, are carried upward in the tubes and reside in the pelvic area leading to hormonal changes in the menstrual cycle causing scarring and inflammation.

Hypothalamic-Pituitary Disorders—Irregularities in this part that controls ovulation accounts for 33% of infertility in women. Excessive exercise, injuries to the pituitary gland, kidney failure, cirrhosis, and anorexia nervosa are some of the major reasons causing the pituitary gland malfunction.

Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome—this occurs when there is a high production of male hormone particularly testosterone in women causing irregular and infrequent cycles. In most cases, the cause is not known but genetic factors are likely to be responsible.

Surgical Problems—bands used up in binding tissues after surgery may restrict the movement of ovaries and fallopian tubes causing infertility. Abortion performed under sterile conditions is safe, but not those that are frequent carry risk. Frequent abortions, however, may also impair woman’s fertility.

Other Causes of Infertility

Cancer Treatments, Medications, Inflammatory Bowel Disease, Thyroid Problems are some the most common problems that surface around as the cause of infertility.

Treatment—Modern day science has made a lot of progress in the field of assisted reproductive technology or ART. This technology combines the use of fertility drugs, hormonal therapy, with artificial insemination using any of a group of techniques. In most of cases infertility cannot be prevented. However there are some measures that women must take in order to ensure that they do not develop this kind of problem. Avoid smoking, alcohol. Take a well balanced diet, and consult your doctor regularly!

By: Jenifer D'souza

What bras do men want to see you in?

I asked my guy.

He said a bra that is easy to take off. Bras that look like lingerie. Black bras. I wasn't satisfied with the answer.

I gave him the unenviable job of going through lingerie catalogs to tell me which bras he finds sexiest.

The verdict.

Strapless bras. A huge surprise to me as I thought these were purely functional. Worn to avoid tiresome straps under tube tops, off shoulder tops or strapless outfits.

His rationale. He just finds strapless bras very sexy. A huge turn on. The simplicity catches his eye. No messy strings. Bare shoulders which he simply loves. Most importantly, they look really easy to take off.

Next in line is the lace bra. That is because lace bras are very beautiful. That I agree with him. Lace bras are very pretty.

In 3rd place is the push up bra.

This one is obvious. Push up bras make your breasts look much bigger. These padded bras add inches to your bustline. The Gel filled bras really boost a girl's assets. A way to get that cleavage without resorting to surgery.

He was saying for girls who really want to turn on the men, go for these 3 types of bras. These are the ones that leave men wanting more.

I do know the kind of bras he simply hates. The fussy types with multiple hooks, the cotton granny type of bra with thick ugly straps that are popular only because of comfort and anything that makes breasts look smaller. In other words, don't waste your time with minimizer bras.

So if you want to dress for your men, what you wear underneath counts too.

By: Janice

So you have that gorgeous dress that demands a deep cleavage. Problem is, you are somewhat challenged in the boobs department. So what do you do?

In the movie, One Night At Mc Cool's Liv Tyler had a very sexy, cleavage revealing scene where she washes a car with her body. She needed plenty of cleavage to get that scene to work, so the resourceful girl put her shoulder pads in her bra to get that effect.

You see, you don't need plastic surgery for cleavage. Sometimes, a little resourcefulness is all you need.

Another trick a fashion stylist demonstrated on TV, when a shoot required more cleavage than the model had to offer. To get that cleavage, stuff the bra with tissue paper. Need more cleavage, just stuff in more tissue paper. Use the whole roll if you have to.

Ok, so it can get messy. Tissue paper is fine for photo shoots, but what about real life?

Shoulder pads work. Better yet, slip in a pair of bra enhancers into your bra to fake it. Or just get a padded bra to save all that trouble.

Use your common sense though. If you are going to the beach, don't stuff tissue paper into your bikini top. It gets soggy and messy when wet. If you are afraid bra enhancers might just slip out at the most embarassing moments, then wear a padded swimsuit. Alternatively, you could try herbal breast enhancement pills. These need to be taken faithfully for 3 to 6 months to see significant increase in breast size, but they are worth a try.

So you see, there are ways of getting that cleavage without resorting to going under the knife. By : Janice