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“Sometimes you have to let everything go – purge yourself. If you are unhappy with anything – whatever is bringing you down – get rid of it. Because you will find that when you are free, your true creativity, your true self comes out.” ~ Tina Turner

I have definitely found this to be the case for myself. It wasn’t until I had to let go – because by the time I was ready to let go, I had to let go – that something bigger, better and more magnificent came my way. I was no longer bogged down with things that zapped my energy and my creativity. I was truly free; and at peace.

Just for today, examine your life and make the conscious decision to let go of what is draining you of your creative energy and obstructing your flow. You’ll be glad you did.

Here’s to letting go,
Coach Carolyn

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"To be conscious that you are ignorant of the facts is a great step to knowledge." ~ Benjamin Disraeli

…And not just a step to knowledge, but also to inner peace. I don’t have to know all the answers…and this has made all the difference.

In keeping with our theme to release and let go, rock with Rickie Byars Beckwith from the Agape International Spiritual Center in California.




Can I just let go…
Can I just let go…

If I can let go, the darkness will fade
If I can just let go

There’s a light all around me
But the pain in my thought has kept me holding on

But I feel like letting go
I’m ready to run and I’m ready to leap into what is real

I got a sweet invitation, a mandate of ecstasy
Let go of your will, drop your tools and follow me
I am the life within you, it’s time to be free.

I feel like letting go; Let go, let God, let go
I feel like letting go; Let go, let God, let go

If I can let go, heaven’s at hand right now
New life is awaiting, while I’m rearranging these old facts of mine
But I’m tired of holding on, my heart is making an authentic appeal

It’s such a sweet invitation, a mandate of ecstasy
Don’t hold any longer, drop your tools and follow me
I won’t abandon my vision, it’s time to release.

I feel like letting go; Let go, let God, let go
I feel like letting go; Let go, let God, let go
(Repeat)

The power of God is guiding me
To surrender to what I’ve got to be
And deep within God loves me so
Let go, I’m letting go

With God, all things are possible
With God, all things are bountiful
And deep within God loves us so
Let go, I’m letting go.

I feel like letting go; Let go, let God, let go
I feel like letting go; Let go, let God, let go
(Repeat)

If we can let go, the darkness will fade
Pray to let go
Let go, let go

Let go, let God, let go
Let go…



I feel like letting go...
Coach Carolyn

Welcome to 2009 and to your new beginning! We may not have had a great beginning, but the good news is that we can begin again. A new year is the perfect time to begin again. Remember as a child there were “do overs’? well, you can do over what you want. Leave those things that no longer serve you, or those people and things that are toxic to your spirit. Take whatever lessons and blessings they were put into your life to teach, then let them go. Easier said that done? Of course, everything is. But remember, this is your “one wild and precious life”, as the poet Mary Oliver wrote; and if you work it right, one life is all you need. You don’t get a do over in this arena. So create the life you want now.

One of the things that many struggle with every new year are those resolutions. New Year’s resolutions. Who thought that up, anyway? It might not be such a terrible idea, if they worked properly; or, were taught properly. First of all, I am one who redefines things that just don’t work for me. So, I do not make New Year’s resolutions, I create new intentions for the year. I also make it fun, not as if it were a chore or drudgery. This is not conducive to the manifestation of those intentions. I choose the feeling I want to feel for this year. Mine is peaceful. How and why a feeling?

“Never apologize for showing feeling. When you do so, you apologize for truth.” ~ Benjamin Disreali

What are your intentions? What would be your resolutions, if you will? Okay, got it? Now, how would you feel if you accomplished those intentions? Elated? Joyous? Proud? Loved? Exhilarated? Play out that feeling. Feel it in all its passion and intensity. This is the feeling you want to stay with this year. When you begin from that feeling, your actions will follow. Do whatever you need to get and keep that feeling. You also want this feeling in all areas of your life, not merely your business, or just your finances, or just your spiritual life. You are one integrated being. You are not split into many different parts that will feel elated in your business, but miserable in your relationships. Bring that feeling into your whole life.

Set your intention around that feeling. In order to maintain your chosen feeling, you must think the thoughts that are in alignment with the feeling. Remember, happy thoughts, bring happy feelings; peaceful thoughts, bring peaceful feelings, and in turn happy and peaceful results in your life. This is where you must exercise your most powerful tool – your power to choose. You do not have to think every thought that pops into your head. Yes, you cannot help the thoughts that come in, but your can control the ones that stay and set up house. Which thoughts are you entertaining on a regular basis? Your mind is your most valuable piece of real estate; what are you allowing to take up residence there?

I am a self professed “re” person. I re-define my terms; I re-fresh my soul; I re-new my mind; I re-charge my body; I re-ignite my passion. It is my version of the “do over.” I dare say that most of us are “re” people. I find that I cannot settle for less than I deserve. Yes, there will be times when I have to be in the wilderness to re-charge and re-learn some things. But I don’t make it my permanent home. I take the lessons and the blessings, pick up my make-shift bed and move on. This has been one of the most difficult, yet most valuable lessons I have had to learn. When it is time to let things and people go, we must let them go. They only came to teach or be taught something of value. We don’t really lose people or things; we receive the blessing from them, then they must go. But we have gained.

“The meaning of things lies not in the things themselves, but in our attitude towards them.” ~ Antoine de Saint-Exupery

“You want to control your life? Control the only thing you can control: the meaning you give something.” ~ Anthony Robbins

One of the things to re-do in our lives is the way we make meaning of things. We are meaning-making machines to be sure, but how do we assign meaning? Remember the meaning you assign a situation is what will give it life. Yes, read that line again. The meaning you assign a situation is what will give it life, thus showing up as the results in your life. If I assign a certain meaning to money, for instance; my personal favorite is money and spirituality cannot mix or co-exist. I cannot tell you how many times I have heard this one. So, of course, ministers, preachers and other spiritual-preneurs are supposed to be dirt poor. I grew up on this one; and although I didn’t originally assign the meaning to this one, I adopted it and made it my own. This was one I chose to keep and continue to assign the same un-serving meaning to it.

This year, I have re-assigned the meaning of money and spirituality: money is energy to use in the service of spiritual-preneurs to accomplish their divine purpose. Money is not this precious green stuff to be admired and hoarded only by the chosen few. I love the line from Hello, Dolly! where Dolly quotes her late husband Ephraim: “Money is like manure; it is to be spread around and used to make things grow!” This is one of the re-definitions I am adopting this new year.

So, for this new year, renew your mind, redefine your terms, and re-invent your assigned meanings; especially the ones that just aren’t working anymore. Re-examine what isn’t working for you and re-set your scales. You will find that it does bring new life into those damp and dark crevices without completely having to spend a fortune on an entire body overhaul. Feel your chosen feeling, make new meanings, re-ignite your passion and create your best life.

“Your life becomes the thing you have decided it shall be.” ~ Raymond Charles Barber

“People don’t talk about the soul very much anymore. It’s so much easier to write a résumé than to craft a spirit. But a résumé is cold comfort on a winter night, or when you’re sad, or broke, or lonely …” ~ Anna Quindlen

Living a life of passion and purpose means surrendering to our own wants and desires in favor of the miracles the Divine has for us. Sometimes we think we know what is best for ourselves, yet we end up with so many people and things in our lives that do not serve us. Then we spend so much time, money and energy trying to undo the things we have done to allow the situations to happen.

As today is my birthday, I want to share some wisdom learned in my 44th year of life. Yes, I know I look 30... that's on purpose! Thank you very much!

Now I knew that when the time came to let go of something that no longer served, that I must just let go. But I have learned over that past year that I must just let go. There is a definite reason for releasing. I liken it to a cup of tea -- if the cup if full to the brim, but the tea is lukewarm, there is no room to pour in the hot water. I must be willing to pour some of the tea out of the cup in order to refresh the tea. Don't you love analogies!

So, my point being -- I had to let go of some things that still seemed useful, though lukewarm. The Divine wants me to have the hottest cup of tea I can possibly have. And, if you are a tea lover like me, you know lukewarm tea is really nasty! Unless I surrender the lukewarm, I cannot attain the hot.

Of course, I knew this intellectually, but try shoving it down to the heart of the matter. There's the rub! It's all about loss and pain, and who wants that? But it's growing pains, and praise be, I am still growing!

I am celebrating my birthday for nine days (like a novena). Just because it's my passion and purpose!

Like passionately and celebrate the now!

Coach Carolyn