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“If you knew everything was really all right, and that it always has a happy ending, then you would not feel trepidacious about your future. Everything is really so very all right! If you could believe and trust that, then, immediately everything would automatically and instantly become all right.” ~ Abraham

If you had no fear, what would you accomplish?

STOP, TAKE A BREATH, and ASK yourself this question. Most of us operate out of a sense of fear instead of a sense of faith, love and trust.

You never worry about the air around you running out – so you have to run outside and breathe as much of it as possible. You have faith and trust that wherever you go, there is enough air for you to breathe.

Think about your true desires and dreams. If they are truly your dreams and not the dreams of your parents, your cultural tribe or your teachers, then the way to make those dreams reality right there beside those dreams. The answers are always in the same room with the questions.

All divine desires are given divine expressions. That is your task. This is where you take the inspired action to make those dreams and divine desires a reality. When you come from a place of pure divinity, fear does not exist.

Leap. The net will appear.
Coach Carolyn

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"The first peace, which is the most important, is that which comes within the souls of people when they realize their relationship, their oneness with the universe and all its powers, and when they realize that at the center of the universe dwells the Great Spirit, and that this center is really everywhere, it is within each of us." ~ Black Elk

When you can be peace, then there is some peace in the world. More importantly, there is some peace within your immediate world. This is good news. You have within you the power to manifest peace. I hear so much about trying to find peace, seeking peace, looking outside of ourselves for the peace that is closer than our breath.

I am often reminded of the words of the Psalmist that says, “Be still and know that I am God.” This is the peace that has been born within you, the peace that lights your world when it is so dark all around you.

Just for today, don’t look for peace outside of yourself. Simply STOP, TAKE A BREATH, and be peace. And then you will be.

I choose peace instead of this.

Coach Carolyn

The Third Agreement: Don’t Make Assumptions

I used to joke that the only exercise I ever got was jumping to conclusions! And man, was I good at it!

When you don’t ask specific questions, then you have to assume your own answers and this, more often than not, leads to trouble. Why do we tend not to ask a simple question, yet would rather stew in our own misery of assumptions and bad guesses?

Just for today, don’t assume. You know what you get when you assume? Uh-huh!

STOP, TAKE A BREATH, and ASK a question.

Coach Carolyn

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“To lead is difficult when you're a follower of fear.” ~ T.A. Sachs

One of my favorite movies is The Holiday. It has some great lines, one of which says that while you are the leading lady in your life, you behave like the best friend – another words, you are living life like you are a supporting character in your own life.

If this is your story, then it is time to start writing a new script. To be a leading lady means you lead with conviction and courage, not following fear and doubt. One way to tell if you are the supporting character in your life instead of the leading lady is to look at what is showing up in your life. Are you getting vague, murky, and unclear messages, then STOP, TAKE A BREATH, and ASK:

“What message am I sending out to the universe?”

Then, notice what you are saying and reacting to. Are your words filled with power and conviction, or are they weak and filled with fear?

What you give is what you get back.

Coach Carolyn

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"We can never obtain peace in the world if we neglect the inner world and don't make peace with ourselves. World peace must develop out of inner peace." ~ The Dalai Lama

Are you at peace with yourself? If you are not, then you are at war with yourself – and this is not a healthy place to be. Perhaps it is time for you to STOP, TAKE A BREATH, and ASK:

"Am I feeling peace right now? If not, why not?"

Then just sit with the questions. Just notice what you are feeling. Whenever any unsettling feelings creep up, they creep up to deliver a message. Yet, we are not conditioned to properly handle unsettling feelings, so we ignore or deny them, hoping they would just go away. Well, they might go away for now, but as the Terminator said, “I’ll be back!” And, yes they will.

Coach Carolyn

If one of your unsettling feelings that you are trying to hide is fear, then this is your time to begin dealing with your fear. Get some mentoring in the Transcending Fear Mentoring Program. It’s fast and easy and you can participate from the comfort of your home or office.

“As we ask questions and seek our purpose, we look for answers both inside and outside ourselves. We learn from others; our own experience; books, workshops, teachers, and mentors; and our painful mistakes. We receive many messages – some of them mixed – about what we’re supposed to be doing with our lives and what will make us feel as if we’re on the right path toward happiness, fulfillment, and a sense of meaning.” ~ From The Won Thing by Peggy McColl

Yes, I have done all of the above, only to discover that I really did not have to look very far for all the answers I was seeking. In my many years of working with women and men in helping them find their passion and purpose, I see so many nix the idea that the answers are already within. The question that baffled me for so long was why were we placed on this earth without a roadmap? Come to discover, we weren’t. We were given very special and very personalized roadmaps. We have just misplaced them!

We were all incarnated on this dear earth to deliver our own very special and very unique messages; but we seem to have forgotten the message. So, we wander around as messengers without the message. Instead of stopping, taking a breath, and asking ourselves some simple questions, we fret, worry, doubt, get anxious, become fearful and lose our way.

Think about this: butterflies, sunflowers, birds, you name it - never forget their message. They never forget what they have come here to do. Just stop and think about this. I double dare you!

As I always say – stopping is a spiritual action. Take some time to stop and remember the message you came here to deliver. Once you do, you will be amazed at how everything else in your life just falls into place.

Here’s to living your best life!
Coach Carolyn

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"Your imagination is your preview of life's coming attractions." ~ Albert Einstein

Napoleon Hills said, “Fear is faith in reverse gear. Fear is a negative belief in something, and belief is the very foundation of faith. Faith is a positive mental attitude in action. Your mental attitude is the sum total of your thoughts at any given time.”

When we were children, we had no problem activating our wonderful gift of imagination. We could imagine anything. I remember when my family would purchase a large household item, like a new television or a washing machine. I was enthralled with the big box that it came in. That box became my fort, my playhouse, my spaceship, my doll house, you name it. And I had no shortage of ideas for what to use that box for. Unfortunately, we were talked out of using that magnificent gift. We had to grow up, be realistic, and get our heads out of the clouds.

But I have some amazing news for you. You still have that gift – yes, it is still a part of you, and you have the ability to activate it anytime you choose. And you want to know something else? You do activate it, quite frequently. The difference is instead of imagining what you do want, you imagine what you do not want, and thus creating a reality that mirrors your imagination. Instead of focusing on your dreams and intentions, you give excessive amounts of attention to your fears and worries. And guess what shows up in your life? You bet! More of your fears and worries.

Just for today, STOP, TAKE A BREATH, and ASK:

“What am I giving most of my attention to right now?” Especially if you are not feeling well emotionally.

Remember, your thoughts precede your feelings; so if you are not feeling okay, then check in with what you are thinking about. You have the ability to choose a different thought; one that is more pleasant; thus making you feel better. Be proactive with your thoughts and your imagination. Use them to create the life you desire.

Here’s to dreaming in color!
Coach Carolyn

"Once you believe that answers and resources can show up in your life, they will: The universe works to mirror your beliefs. It will prove you right every time." ~ Peggy McColl

Having an issue with procrastination? First, STOP, TAKE A BREATH, and ASK:

“Is this something I want to do or that I should do?”
“Is this something that is related to my passion? If not, why do I need to do it?”

When you are following your passion and your purpose, life opens up to you; you don’t have to work hard. You work hard when you are out of alignment with who you are meant to BE. And when you are being who you were created to be, the DO will show up and guide you effortlessly.

Two Rules for the Day:
1. Stop “shoulding” all over yourself.
2. Stay out of the “how” because how is none of your business.

"The simplification of life is one of the steps to inner peace. A persistent simplification will create an inner and outer well-being that places harmony in one's life." ~ Peace Pilgrim

As you know, your words are truly powerful. I believe your words are one of the most powerful weapons you have for or against anything in your life. You literally have the power to harm or the power to heal.

So, STOP, TAKE A BREATH, and ASK:

How am I sabotaging myself with my words?

If you are one to speak daily affirmations, are you really speaking from a place of fear or a place of faith?

Do your affirmations make you feel constrictive or expansive? Do you really believe what you say on a daily basis?

If not, then perhaps you need to re-word your affirmations. One of the tricks I have found helpful for myself is to interject the choices method in my affirmations. If I say an affirmation and cannot quite feel into it, yet it is something I choose for my life, I preface it with the words, “I choose…”

So, if I my affirmation is “I am healthy, wealthy and wise.” Now, if I am not feeling this, I can change it to, “I choose to be healthy, wealthy, and wise.” This feels more authentic to me.

Just for today, I challenge you to take another look at your affirmations. See what feels constrictive or expansive to you.

I choose to make this a fabulous day!
Coach Carolyn

"It's not what you do once in a while; it's what you do day in and day out that makes the difference." ~ Jenny Craig

"The minute you choose to do what you really want to do it's a different kind of life." ~ R. Buckminster Fuller

You know that when you do something once, there is no more fear, right? So, just do it!

I have found for myself that when fear begins to paralyze me, it simply means that my mind-body is protecting me from something new and unknown. But once I take the plunge, the fear disappears. I think there is a problem when you don’t feel the fear when facing something new.

So, just for today, face your fear – STOP, TAKE A BREATH, and ASK:

“What is it you are here to protect me from? Tell your fear that you will keep you all safe and this shift will be good for you. Then, BREATHE again!

"Life is too short to waste. Dreams are fulfilled only through action, not through endless planning to take action." ~ David J. Schwartz

Napoleon Hill says in his seminal work Think and Grow Rich:

“When the opportunity comes, it appears in a different form and from a different direction. That is one of the tricks of opportunity. It has a sly habit of slipping in by the back door, and often comes disguised in the form of misfortune or temporary defeat. Perhaps this is why so many fail to recognize opportunity.

Before success comes to most people, they are sure to meet with much temporary defeat, and perhaps some failure. When faced with defeat the easiest and most logical thing to do id to quit. That is exactly what the majority of people do.”

When I first read those passages, I nearly fell off of my chair. As a woman in perpetual transition, I would often ask the proverbial question, “Why is this happening to me?” “Why does this always happen to me?”

Does any of this sound familiar?

Then, I read Hill’s words and took a great sigh of relief. Before reading this, I would hit the adversity, then just stop. Not recognizing that this temporary defeat was an opportunity in disguise.

Today, although I’m still not crazy about the adversities that I meet, I now recognize them as opportunities in disguise. There is a higher calling for these trials.

Just for today, STOP, TAKE A BREATH, and ASK:

“What are the lessons, the blessings, and the testings of this trial or misfortune?”
I urge you to make a habit of reading books like Think and Grow Rich; especially if you are needing new shifts in old paradigms.