12:23 PM

Are You Stopping ~ On Purpose?

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I have noticed in the past several months that when I ask someone, especially women, how they are doing ~ the answer I get is either very busy or stressed! No one is just plain “Very well, thank you” anymore. We have defined our lives by how much we can cram into a twenty-four hour period. It seems that if we are not extremely overbooked, over scheduled, or over extended then we are not living productive lives. But there is a vast difference between busyness and productivity.

If you are merely busy, then it is time to stop and ask yourself what you are so busy about. If your busyness is producing the outcomes needed to achieve your dreams and intentions, then you are on the right path. Even in the productivity, it is wise to take time to just be. Develop a daily practice of stopping, on purpose, for at least five minutes. We all have five minutes to just stop and breathe. If you cannot find five minutes, then you really need to rethink your priorities, for a five minute breath break must be a priority for us all.

In addition to scheduling in time for acknowledging the things you are grateful for, include those five minutes to stop and breathe ~ just notice your breath and be aware of what is around you. This gets you in the present moment for at least five minutes.

Stop and breath, on purpose!
Coach Carolyn

As I explain in a previous blog, I was shocked to discover that Martek, a company that harvests DHA from microbes found in soil bacteria, was sponsoring the upcoming International Confederation of Midwives conference in Glasgow next month. Martek are 'silver sponsors' at the event.

You might wonder why this is such a big deal? Who are Martek exactly?

Martek are the company that single-handedly supply all the DHA 'ingredients' to baby formula.
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Is this is big deal? Seriously?
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Yes, seriously, it is. It is serious on two main counts.

One, midwife organisations should be supporting breastfeeding, and taking money from a company that makes millions from selling its product to engineer formula to make it more like breastmilk is completely unethical. Not only does this directly undermine breastfeeding and breastmilk, it allows everyone to hike up their prices for formula as they have the 'best' ingredients. In fact, on the web page I've just linked to Martek straight out speak about this by stating:

"...as the market has shown, they are willing to pay a premium to provide the best nutrition for their children."

This is the company sponsoring the conference. Sponsoring it, I might add, by money made from selling at a 'premium' to parents, worried about doing the best for their children. And knowingly, and openly, exploiting that in their approach to marketing and promotion. This is completely and utterly unacceptable. Taking money from parents at one end of the equation, and handing it out to gain credence and publicity at a midwives' conference? Obscene. Utterly obscene.

But it gets worse. This point on its own is bad enough - engineering products to 'fake' breastmilk, selling it on at a high premium to worried parents... that's one thing, but selling on a product with no proven efficiency, but with serious concerns on its effects on infants... that's just totally off the scale.

And that's what Martek does. It promotes its DHA/ARA supplements as being the same ingredients found naturally in breastmilk, and therefore aiding normal brain, nerve and eye growth in babies, exactly as breastmilk does. Ingredients traditionally absent from formula, and therefore one reason why formula fed infants do not achieve the same development in these areas than if they were breastfed. But the two products are not the same. The Martek product is a 'novel' product, made under laboratory conditions, and harvests long chain polyunsaturated fatty acids from bacteria, fungus and algae. There have been no independent clinical trials on the effects of this 'novel' product in the infant gut, or on how it might, or might not, be utilised by the infant.

But what study after study after study has found, is that there has been no increase in these functions in babies fed the 'novel' formula versus the old formula. There have been some suggestions of a benefit in pre-term babies, but breastmilk would simply be better for preemies anyway, and there is no understanding yet of appropriate doses and how some studies show no increase and others show some. But in the case of buying it off the shelf and feeding it to your baby as day to day food - the results are perfectly clear: it gives no added benefits in growth in these areas.

In other words: it doesn't work. In the words of the researchers:

"Routine supplementation of milk formula with LCPUFA to improve the physical, neurodevelopmental or visual outcomes of infants born at term can not be recommended based on the current evidence." Simmer et al PMID: 18253974

So much for the 'premium' that parents are paying for, huh?

It gets worse, of course. For whilst there is no evidence that adding these 'novel' oils to formula helps development, there is a growing body of data that suggests it causes problems for infants. Vomiting, gastric reflux, extreme constipation, extreme diarrhoea, all of the above, are symptoms being linked again and again to the use of formula containing the 'novel' oils. Babies are being hospitalised, taken off the 'new' formula, put on the old one, and symptoms disappear. In many cases, when the new formula is introduced again, the symptoms return.

Parents in the USA have been reporting these incidents to the Food and Drug Administration, in an attempt to get warning labels put onto the formula tins on the shelf. Well, we know how good formula companies are at appropriate labeling, don't we? Here are some of the cases reported to the FDA:

Report #: 61307
“Her baby was fed this Enfamil Lipil formula for the first 3 weeks of his life and was constantly having gas and diarrhea from it, until he was taken off this formula by his pediatrician after the child was taken to the hospital ER by the parents, while having a severe bout of gas and diarrhea. Child was given regular Enfamil with Iron and has been on it ever since without any problems.”

Report #: 64191
“Healthy term newborn receiving formula supplementation – mother with history of breast reduction surgery – in hospital. Mother reported large amounts of emesis (vomiting) with Lipil, which resolved when switched to “original” Enfamil. Subsequently she was unable to obtain more “original” Enfamil – hospital supply not repleted by formula company. Baby again vomiting today with resumption of Lipil. Hospital staff in process of searching for formula without Formulaid [DHA and ARA] at present.”

Report #: 72285
“My son cannot tolerate the new infant formulas with DHA/ARA additives, Similac Advance, Enfamil Lipil, Goodstart with DHA/ARA – every time he has tried a DHA/ARA formula he gets extremely gassy, fussy and has terrible gas pains. He does do better on the Similac Advance, which has less DHA/ARA than the other products. I can’t find plain Similac in my local store, as they only carry the DHA/ARA formulas. Why did the FDA allow the formula companies to produce these formulas without long term testing???”

Why indeed. The same question can be asked in the UK...

For those of you who which to understand more about the issues on how these 'novel' oils are made, what effect they have on human babies, the legal battle now ensuing in the USA to have warning labels put on formula cans etc.. I cannot recommend the following report enough:

Replacing Mother—Imitating Human Breast Milk in the Laboratory, details research questioning the alleged benefits of adding “novel” omega-3 and omega-6 fatty acids, produced in laboratories and extracted from algae and fungus, into infant formulas. The report presents disturbing research indicating that the new additives placed in infant formula are seriously endangering the health of some formula-fed newborns and toddlers. Aggressive marketing campaigns by some infant formula manufacturers appear to have encouraged new mothers to give up nursing and switch to use of the questionable infant formula products."

And it is definitely a report that those involved in brokering and accepting Martek money - parents' money - for the midwives' conference, should read.

On that, I really wish I could tell you some good news about the conference organisers. When I was informed that Martek was sponsoring the conference, I emailed the ICM direct, and asked if it was they, or the Royal College of Midwives who brokered the deal? The RCM are hosting the conference on behalf of the ICM, as it's being held in the UK. A full working week later, I've not even had an acknowledgement of my request for information, never mind a response. With the conference opening on June 1st, I felt I had no option midweek but to them contact the RCM and ask them is they had brokered the sponsorship deal. No answer has been forthcoming from them either.

Now, the ICM email went to their 'info' eddress - so someone will have seen it. The RCM one went to a named person, and although I'd not had an "out of office" response, it's conceivable that the message hasn't been read as they could be away. So I will email their 'info' with the same request, tonight.

I also asked both organisations to let me know who monitors the The International Code of Marketing of Breastmilk Substitutes issues within their orgs. Given the issues of code breakers at the recent RCM organised event, this is a serious issue for both orgs. Will there be code breakers in the halls at Glasgow? Again, I've had no response at all, never mind on this separate point.

Which is a bit silly. For I alerted both organisations to the fact that some of the outraged responses I'd had after mentioning this in my blog, had been from some mothers wanting to organise a demo-protest outside the conference next week! You'd think that after alerting them to this, and asking for more info so we could understand the issues fully, and know where, why and how the sponsorship had come about... they'd jump at the chance to defuse the situation by responding quickly. After all, maybe they were unaware of Martek's role in manufacturing formula components that made artificial ingredients "naturally found in breast milk".

So, that's the situation. That's who will be sponsoring next week's shindig. And midwives from all over the world, will be in attendance. I hope someone speaks up at the conference, and asks for an explanation of all this. I've had quite a few furious midwives in touch, and I'm sure some of the ire will last past the acceptance speech and the 'well done' clappy clap claps.

I will keep trying to get through to both ICM and RCM, and will let you know if I get a response. If you want to try yourself, and let them know it's not just me annoyed about this - you can contact ICM here, and RCM here.

Depressing that we have to do this, with the very people that we trust most to keep our babies safe.

*sigh*

I spent this past weekend with about 60 other dreamers and Marcia Weider, America’s Dream Coach in the Create Your Future Now workshop. It was an intense weekend, 9-7 both days with lots of information, sharing, and dreaming. It was awesome to be in a SOHO loft with so many other dreamers and entrepreneurs.

Marcia, founder and CEO of Dream University, has certified nearly 600 Dream Coaches and travels around the world giving workshops, lectures and retreats on making your dreams a reality. In addition to authoring a number of books, she had appeared on Oprah a number of times, had her own PBS special and leads week long workshops on becoming an inspiring speaker and masters of manifestation. Marcia is the former president of the National Association of Women Business Owners and resides in the San Francisco area with her fiancé Patrick and her two puppies, Ciao and Bella.

This weekend, Marcia went through her 10 Dream Principles, with exercises and lots of questions to help solidify our dreams. We also discussed making, managing, breaking and re-negotiating agreements, which Marcia believes is one of the prime sources of suffering.

One of the principles is finding your purpose: “When all of your dreams are an expression of your purpose, then you are in alignment,” says Marcia.

“There are the dream we have for our life and then there are the dreams that life has for us.” ~ Marcia Weider from Dreams Are Whispers From the Soul

The most profound part of the weekend for me, besides meeting and sharing with new dreamers, was the piece on incompletions – something left undone or unsaid in our lives. These incompletions can trigger old memories stirring up disowned parts of ourselves, resulting in unrealized dreams. The process for getting complete is to first identify what is incomplete ~ asking how might this be impacting or inspiring your dream; and then determining what needs to be done to complete it. Completing what is incomplete puts you in an empowered position by reclaiming that part of you that was lost or disowned.

This was especially profound for me because it speaks of grief and loss, which is one of my passions. It indeed brought up lots for me to take away and meditate on further.

Marcia's 3-Step Process for making your dreams come true:
1. Get clear about what you want
2. Believe in yourself and your dreams
3. Take action on your dreams

I am a member of Marcia’s Amazing Dreamers online community which is a wonderful place to support you in bridging the gap between your reality and your dreams. The Amazing Dreamers community is nearly 5000 members and I invite you to join for support, tips and tools, including free e-books and audio on making your dreams come true. When you join, add me and Marcia as a friend.

It was a blessing to have Marcia back in her own home state for the weekend, and the New York Marcia shined forth.

Be sure to check out Marcia’s newest beautiful book, Dreams Are Whispers From the Soul. I have my very own personally autographed copy which will become a constant companion on my journey from living in reality to living in my precious dreams.

Live purposely in your dreams,
Coach Carolyn

9:17 AM

Spiritual Hiatus ~ Not on Purpose

Posted by Doncrack |

Robert Fulghum once said, "If you break your neck, if you have nothing to eat, if your house is on fire, then you got a problem. Everything else is inconvenience."

How true that statement is. Having been forced into virtual darkness, not having a computer for about six weeks, I realized that it was extremely inconvenient and the timing sucked ~ yet, it could not have been more perfectly timed. I was literally forced into a hiatus that somehow turned into a spiritual time out. Now this could very well be because I live my life by outrageously spiritual tenets anyway. But I don't think it was that easy.

For anyone who really knows me ~ and only the Divine has that privilege, or burden, I am glued to my online work. It is one of my passions. Yet, it was strangely and unceremoniously ripped from me with no notice and no chance for backup. Another words, I had to surrender and let go. Gasp!

The lovely and shocking thing for me was, I thoroughly enjoyed the hiatus. It was surprisingly peaceful and I didn't have a major freak-out. I did have a couple of minor ones, though. I had to wait for new hardware for my laptop, so all I could do was wait. And wait some more! But in the waiting, I remained silent and still. It was like a six week artist date. I journaled, prayed, meditated, questioned, and waited some more.

I had plenty of offline activities in the interim, yet they contributed to the retreat time. Though this was a spiritual hiatus that did not happen on purpose, it should have. Then, would it have had the same impact? I suspect not.

So, in addition to my weekly artist dates, I will schedule in monthly spiritual retreat days. What's the difference, you may ask? The intensity. My artist dates last about three to four hours each week. The retreat will be an entire twenty-four hours of no phones, no emails, no Internet, no blogging (egads!), no nothing! It is in the silence that the Divine and I meet.

I have fallen in love with the feeling of letting things go. And you want to know something? Nothing fell apart! The sky is still where it always was. So I encourage you to do something special for your inner spirit ~ take a spiritual hiatus, on purpose!

So, glad to be back home where I belong!
Coach Carolyn

This card was in my eyeline as I walked out of Sainsbury's. Someone had dumped it up front after having picked it up from a back layer. I could see why they'd put it down! I couldn't quite believe how far we'd sunk in our culture, that protests are made when breasts feed babies... but card companies can make money on crude images such as this. And in a supermarket!


The really good news is... Sainbury's were shocked too, and the manager I spoke to at Sainsbury's Bedford, took them all off the shelf without me having to say one word. He just asked what I was complaining about, I opened the card, and his first words were "I do apologise, are there more on the shelf?" When I pointed to them, he lifted them off there and then. I suggested he phone head office to phone round the other stores.
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So if you have a moment, please contact Sainsbury's and congratulate them for this prompt response. A 'thank you' for a job well done, is worth more than a thousand complaints. I know it's easier to write, phone or email an outraged complaint... but, if we find good people doing good things, we need to empower them to do more good things. As I said, I didn't have to say one word - the cards were off the shelf within seconds of him seeing one.

As he was apologising for them, I did say I didn't expect him to know every card in the store, and he said that wasn't the point. The point was that the card agent should know better, and they should never have been brought into the store. Good Point!

So who made them? Well, this jolly exploration of what the 'perfect' plastic surgery for breasts would look like, is from Carlton Cards. It's stock number is 146841 - - - 2. All copyright for the images here reserved by them.

And the back of the card, in small print, contains a warning.... that the card is not suitable for those under 3 years of age.
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Why is it not suitable?
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Because the "Birthday Boy" badge attached to the front, has a sharp, pointy, edge.
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If you're in a supermarket, any supermarket, this weekend, and you spot one, do bring it to the manager's attention! :-)
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Carlton Cards, Mill Street East, Dewsbury, WF12 9AW
01928 465200 fax 01928 453908
the UK subsidury of Carlton Cards (USA)
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Carlton Cards... demeaning women and breastfeeding if it gets us a cheap laugh (and your money)...

EDIT: June 4th

As you can see from the comments, the card turned up at Tesco too. Their response was just as fast, and the card was removed within an hour of my speaking to a manager. Thank you Tesco!!!

EDIT: June 5th

Received a phone call from Sainsbury's HQ confirming that the card had since been removed from every single store and the matter taken up with the manufacturer. Apologies for offence caused. :-)

11:11 PM

Perfect Nails

Posted by Doncrack |

Strong nails that grow fast? This is every woman's dream. Find out what you have to do to get beautiful nails.

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In order to be able to boast about your nails, you have to make them healthy. The lacks of hydration or, on the contrary, too much exposure to moisture make you nails become very fragile, especially at their tops. Heat, detergents, and the nail polish remover are the worst enemies of your healthy nails. If you are not able to wear protective gloves each time you wash the dishes, immediately after doing it you should use a hydrating lotion for hands. Try not to keep your hands in the water for a long time when you wash the dishes, swim, or even when you take a bath. Nails have the capacity to absorb 20-25 % of their weight when in water, and constrict when dry. If this process repeats often, your nails become weaker. Nevertheless, beyond prevention, there are also natural solutions to revive problem nails:

  • Once or twice a day offer your nails and fingers an olive oil massage. Dwell on your cuticles and sides of your nails. Massaging improves blood flow at the nail level, and it works like a medicine.
  • Heat up some till oil and use it as a nail mask. Leave it work for about 15-20 minutes and then wash it with warm water. Apply this treatment once at most twice a week. Do not forget that too much hydration for your nails make them week.
  • Wear you nails short for a couple of weeks, to help the recovery process. The shorter they are, the risk to tear them becomes smaller.
  • For hydration, choose a lotion rich in urea and lactic acid, an ideal treatment in nail treatment.
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  • If you have torn cuticles or small wounds at you nails, then the usual manicure treatments can lead to infections. A handy way to treat this is massaging your nails with worm honey for 15-29 minutes. Honey works against bacteria, and prevents any potential infection. Apply this treatment at night, before going to bed.
  • Allow your nails to breathe. Try not to use nail polish for at least a month. For more severe cases, you may even need three months. Not only that nail polish dries the nails, but also the remover attacks their roots.
  • If you want you nails whiter, apply a pledged with some apple vinegar on each nail and massage them. Another way is to treat your nails with a mild solution of peroxide hydrogen, once a week.
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  • For stronger nails, use a garlic paste for a couple of minutes a day.
  • If you have a nail polish addiction, use this treatment for nail strengthening: add 8 drops of lemon, 5 drops of iodine in a bottle of taintless nail polish. Blend it and leave it for a day or so. Then apply it in a thin layer every day for 7 days. Then remove the nail varnish.
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  • To get stronger nails, try a diet which consists in foods rich in vitamin B, like cauliflower, peanuts and duckweed. Have these vegetables fresh at least twice a day. Absorbed vitamin B encourages the development of strong and healthy nails. Ask your doctor or pharmacist to recommend an appropriate product.
  • If you want your nail polish to dry faster, apply a thin layer of baby oil too.

Did you know that...?
  • nails grow about an eighth of a centimeter a month;
  • fingernails develop faster than toenails;
  • if you are right-handed, the nails from your right hand grow faster than the ones from your left hand; the reverse is valid for left-handed ;
  • nails grow faster during summer and pregnancy;
  • after 35 years old, nails tend to become naturally more fragile.

 
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