8:00 AM

18 Hours and 3.7 miles

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Whereby we tell the tale of Baby C.
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12 weeks old. Faltering weight gain since being detained in Yarl's Wood. Detained as baby and mother and sisters were too risky to be left in the community; they might run off from their GP, nursery, school and health care providers. And disappear without food or accommodation the second they did that. Yes, of course they would! *facepalm*
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Locked up in there, with her 4 and 6 year old sisters, and her mother. Her mother had been advised not to breastfeed, by her local NHS consultant. Something which pained the mother, who had breastfeed the elder two.
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Baby C, despite having excellent health prior to being uprooted from her home and driven in a minivan to Yarl's Wood, suffered from repeat bouts of gastroenteritis and her weight gain faltered dramatically whilst in the compound. She was, finally, seen by a paediatrician at Bedford Hospital, on Monday June 30th.
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And who was placed on special, prescription only, elemental formula.
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And who then returned to Yarl's Wood.
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And who then, two days later, was left without food for over 18 hours.
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No, you read that right. When the hospital supplied formula ran out, UK Borders Agency healthcare, provided by SERCOHealth, left the baby unfed for over 18 hours.
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18 hours.
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Imagine how you'd feel, without food, for over 18 hours? Like Baby C, you could have as much water with salt/sugar as you could tolerate. (Blackcurrant flavour, if you want to know the exact details.)
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So won't be suffering from thirst, just hunger.
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How would you feel? How do you think Baby C, felt?
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Want to know what's really shocking about this?
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It's not the fact that the nearest tin of formula, was at Bedford Hospital, 3.7 miles away.
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It's not the fact that they had over two days, and two overnight order opportunities, to order it from their nearest chemist, only 1.9 miles away.
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It's not the fact that by 8.30pm, the night it had run out, they'd given up trying to get it, and said "Let it drink salty sugar water!"
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No, the really shocking fact.. is that they've accepted this happened, and that it was perfectly reasonable. And good standard of care. No problem here, pass along. We took perfectly good care of this baby in our charge.
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So go away and stop annoying us.
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No, seriously.
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That's what your Government officials have said, in writing. This baby, already ailing, was left unfed for over 18 hours, and that's perfectly okay.
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If you have an infant feeding qualifications, and your professional opinion differs from that of the experts employed by the UK Border Agency, Alison Blenkinsop, IBCLC would like to hear from you, pronto. The facts of this case are being circulated, and a towering rage of protest building - add your voice!
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If you are a UK citizen, and you have an opinion about this standard of acceptable care, please write your MP. If you're not very good at letters, you may wish to have a look at the one below.
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And if, like me, you're sitting here with tears in your eyes, wondering what that poor mite went through, with over 18 hours of salty sugar water with a fake blackcurrant taste... rest assured Baby C and her family are now out of Yarl's Wood, back in their home town (although now homeless thanks to Borders Agency keeping her in Yarl's Wood for over 28 days). We're hoping to see her weight gain recover, and will keep you posted.
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I checked the Human Rights Charter on the right to food, you know. It doesn't mention a thing about you being allowed out of it if the chemist is shut.
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Dear
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I'm writing to protest in the strongest possible terms about UK Border's Agency views, expressed by Brian Pollett, Head of Detention Services, that it was perfectly acceptable to leave a 12 week old baby without food for over 18 hours at a recent incident in Yarl's Wood IRC. I don't care how much salty sugar water Yarl's Wood supplied to this poor baby, not feeding it milk at all during this time was a completely unacceptable standard of care. I feel very strongly that UK Borders Agency should accept that this was a terrible incident, and should promise to ensure that it never happens again. As my MP, I'm asking you to contact Liam Byrne's office and pass on my complaints directly. It is totally unsupportable that Government agencies should defend the indefensible in this manner. I look forward to an early reply from your office.
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Yours
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with profound apologies to xkcd.com

"I write because I have something to say. I blog because I have to say it."

It is amazing that in less than a year, we have listed over 300 women bloggers on the W Magical List of Women Bloggers wiki. It has been so empowering for me to have fabulous conversations with other women who blog on everything from being a mom, to running a business, to dealing with difficult life issues. Yet, this is only a fraction of the female blogging talent in the blogosphere. Women bloggers are still an unrecognized entity.

One of my dearest of friends, Kathy Russell, knowing my own passion for blogging, emailed me an article from today's New York Times entitled, “Blogging’s Glass Ceiling.” The article talks about the disparity between men and women bloggers. On the heels of the recent BlogHer conference in San Francisco, the article quotes the Pew Internet and American Life Project that among Internet users, 14 percent of men and 11 percent of women blog. A study conducted by BlogHer and Compass Partners last year found that 36 million women participate in the blogosphere each week, and 15 million of them have their own blogs.

As the Assistant Organizer of the New York Bloggers Meetup Group, of the 250 plus members, there is a definite mix of guys and gals; and the Organizer and I are both female. Why the disparity? From my own humble observation, unless blogging has some monetary value attached to it, there is no real incentive to do it more than as a hobby. Life happens and the blogs fall by the wayside. For women, life is more urgent than posting the latest news on a blog.

Two of the loveliest ladies of the blogosphere are my Facebook buddies, Denise Wakeman and Patsi Krakoff, known as the Blog Squad. These ladies revolutionized blogging for me and taught me so much that brought such a deep passion for the genre. Not to mention, they are two rockin’ gals! Now I eat, sleep and dream of blogs. And yes, I do have a life! I post about it regularly.

No doubt there will be more to talk about on this topic. Would love to hear what you think about this. And if you are a woman who blogs and have not yet contributed your blog to the wiki, please pop on over and register to list your blog.

Here's to blogging with a purpose!

Coach Carolyn

7:37 AM

Lactavist/Lactivist

Posted by Doncrack |

Spelling is what you make it.

When it first occurred to someone to put "L" in front of "activist", to create a word that suggests you are campaigning actively for lactation issues... it must have seemed a stroke of genuis!

Which, I think, it was. L-activist.

However, we 'lactate'. Not 'lactite'.

So I use 'lactavist'. Lactation.

So do others. Sometimes, is seems like we're all making a spelling mistake. Sometimes, it seems like we're on a more authentic pathway, linguistically. Lactation Activist.

It's something I've mused on often, as being dyslexic, I have to pay attention. And I have, before now, gone back and rooted out all "lactavist"s in my writing, and replaced them with "lactivist".

No more. This is the Freedom For Lactavist post.

We are active about lactation. We can be lactavists. Use it enough, it will be listed in the dictionary as an alternate spelling.

Are you listening OED?

4:48 AM

Purposeful Service

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“If you dedicate yourself to service, the doors will open.” ~ Pir Vilayat Inayat Khan

Today’s society seems to be so focused on the “what’s in it for me?” attitude. One of the best pieces of advice I ever heard was, if you want to make yourself happy, go and make someone else happy. In the end, you will be happy too.

Living a life of passion and purpose means giving yourself in service, filling a need when you come across one; and there are no shortages of needs to be met. Offer a smile, a word of encouragement, a genuine compliment, or go the extra mile. Offer to shop for someone who cannot get around as much, especially if you are going already. It is in the little things that great things can happen.

To love is to serve,
Coach Carolyn




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This is why we are celebrating breastfeeding in Parliament Square tomorrow. Because women like Emily Pulling, photographed above, are left unprotected from harassment whilst their children breastfeed. As Emily sits in the park, today, and smiles hello for us, her son has a lovely milk feed. In Scotland, if you went over and told her she was disgusting, or asked her to stop, or voiced your opinion that she should hide her son from your view... you would have committed an offence. Emily could call the police, and they would protect Emily by dealing with your harassment and moving you on.
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In England and Wales, Emily and her son have no such protection. In England and Wales, she is left unprotected from the harassment and the bigoted ignorance of others. If you doubt this exists, please peruse the comments section of this article, promoting the Bournemouth picnic. The police will now have an obvious presence in Bournemouth, to protect the mothers and their children.
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There has been quite a controversy about the proposed Single Equalities Bill, and breastfeeding protection this past month. The most damaging aspect of it being comments, by reputed journalists, that mothers like Emily are breaking the law here by allowing their children to breastfeed in public in England and Wales. This is simply not true, and Barbara Follett, Harriet Harman's deputy at Woman and Equalities has finally come out and said so:
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"The law is not as clear as it could be. People are unsure of their rights and their responsibilities in this area. Some people also think that women can be charged with indecency for breastfeeding in a public place. This is utter nonsense and completely wrong."
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It will be interesting to see how many of the journalists correct their misrepresentations in the next few days.
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The BBC acknowledged this inaccuracy a couple of weeks ago, and have been updating old stories on their web sites to remove all reference to breastfeeding in public coming under the Indecency Act. What a pity the message hasn't got through to everyone there 'tho. For only on Friday, a BBC news crew asked a breastfeeding baby and mother to remove themselves from the sight of a camera, in case the BBC news viewers were offended by them on the Six O'clock News. And the mother was not protected from this request, whilst she and her baby sat in the shadow of The Mother Of All Parliaments.
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No news crew would have addressed her in such a way in Scotland. In Scotland, they would have known they were committing an offence.
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Comments upon the conduct of the BBC in this matter, can be addressed here.
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There has been some reaction to Barbara Follett's comments, as they also appear to break down the nonsense of the reported six month protection under Maternity provision. Thankfully, Follett appears to have admitted that maternity protection has no age limit. This is a nice step forward, in dealing with overall ignorance. It makes no difference at all to the issue of mothers and children being left unprotected.
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We all knew it wasn't illegal to breastfeed in public. Making a big show of saying such in the wake of media reports that it was, media reports linked to Downing Street media briefings, is damage limitation, not news!
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And it's still ridiculous to suggest that Maternity provision under the Sex Discrimination Act is protection at all. Being able to sue cafe owners AFTER they have thrown you out, or harassed you, is not protection. Protection is preventing it happening in the first place. All the original objections still stand - how on earth can any mother prove this in a court of law? Why should she? Why should the burden be placed on her, the victim?
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And Emily, sitting up there in a park, isn't covered by this presumed 'right to sue' in any event.
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She's in a public space. No one to sue on discriminating against her on right to equal service.
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And if she's in a cafe, and another customer comes over and harasses her, she has no right to sue them either.
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Not to mention that maternity wouldn't protect a father feeding breast milk from a bottle, or a grandmother feeding formula from a bottle. Hungry babies needing milk aren't protected by Maternity law saying you can sue a cafe owner for throwing you out of the premises for breastfeeding!
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They are protected by legislation stating it is an offence to harass or try to stop any caregiver feeding a child milk, in any place the child has a right to be.
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It's all nonsense.
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The whole "oh we didn't mean that, let me assure you..." is just more smoke and a bigger mirror.
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Still no proper protection bill planned. Still no assurance that they are listening, and proper protection is a priority.
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Still no protection.
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So join Emily at the picnic tomorrow, and help us celebrate that breastfeeding is both normal, and extraordinary, and every day and miraculous. And that hungry babies have a right to food, where and when they are hungry.
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5:54 AM

Hathor The Cow Goddess - Sexfiends

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More Hathor Here.
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breastfeeding, but other than that, you get the point! ;-)

6:49 AM

Invite Your MP to the Picnic

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If you'd like to support "Protect My Baby, Protect Me", please invite your MP to the picnic being held on Monday July 21st.

You can find out who your MP is, and send them an email, by putting your postcode into this link. You will then be given a contact page, which will include a single click to open up a letter to them.

You then fill in your details, and invite them to the picnic. If you don't feel confident about letter writing, you could use this proforma: (This is much easier if you open two windows!)

A second version posted by a father, is in the comments section.

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Subject line:

Protect My Baby, Protect Me

Message:

As a constituent, I'm writing to invite you to attend a breastfeeding picnic being held on Parliament Square, Westminster on Monday July 21st, between 12 noon and 4pm.

The picnic is to raise awareness of the lack of protection for hungry babies and their mothers in England and Wales. We need to make sure that as a very basic minimum, legislation is brought in to safeguard hungry babies as has been done in Scotland.

Hungry babies require milk when they are hungry. Mothers, fathers and caregivers need to feel safe in feeding hungry babies.

A hungry baby needs milk, be it from a bottle, or the mother's breast.

Scotland has recognised this, and the rest of the UK should receive the same protection. Please seriously consider this issue as you enjoy the Summer Recess. The mothers and children at the picnic will be happy to discuss it with you over tea and cakes. There are regional picnics if you are not in Westminster on that day. Kind regards...

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Organising details of Parliament Square (maps, toilets, etc) are now being added. We're still finalising police permission for Oxford, but otherwise, Durham, Birmingham, Hinckely and Bournemouth are all up and running. Details here.

1:50 PM

Soul Guidance

“People don’t talk about the soul very much anymore. It’s so much easier to write a résumé than to craft a spirit. But a résumé is cold comfort on a winter night, or when you’re sad, or broke, or lonely …” ~ Anna Quindlen

Letting go of my own ego-driven thoughts and allowing my soul to guide me is what really empowers me. I can tell when it’s my soul speaking because she always speaks without any negativity and I always feel a sense of peace and tranquility. Usually, whatever she wants me to do not only helps me grow spiritually, but also helps someone else along the way. My ego, on the other hand, is often selfish, negative and critical.

Bad habits are hard to break, but when I allow my soul to show me the best way and when I allow myself to be aware, I know I'm going in the right direction. My ego still takes over sometimes and when I listen to it instead of my soul, there’s always a lesson to be learned afterwards.

Listening to my soul empowers me. Looking inside myself isn't comfortable when I see the shadows as well as the light. But then I stop and realize that without the shadows, I wouldn't know about the light. ~ Diana Brunson

“The place where I am most at home, the place where my soul resides, feels located in and around my heart and a little below, in my solar plexus. When I am aware of that part of my self, attend to it, and act from it, I am at home.” ~ Patrice Vecchione

Ignite your heart passion!
Coach Carolyn

1:38 PM

A Purposeful Inconvenience

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"I imagine that the present is as it should be. It is perfectly unfolding even if I don't understand why." ~ Evelyn Rodriguez

I constantly speak about living a life of purpose and passion. We are the authors of our lives and can create what a passionate and purposeful life looks like for us. This includes living in some of the inconveniences that may become quite purposeful. I will share a story.

Last week, I was on the bus and in the seat next to me was a planner that someone obviously left behind. Well, being a person of purpose, I know how extremely important our planners are to us. I took the planner and put it in my backpack. When I arrived at my destination, I checked the planner and found the email of the owner. There was also a phone number; but I thought emailing was less intrusive. The owner emailed me in return and followed up with a phone call. She looked me up! We spoke and arranged a meeting.

I was greeted with one of the loveliest and warmest of women. Elaine and I chatted for about fifteen minutes and we shared some of our mutual interests. Turns out we are both on a spiritual journey.

Now, this could have been a tremendous inconvenience. Yet, I am a lover of anyone who fully utilizes a planner; so I merely saw this as an opportunity. I instinctively knew that the owner of the planner was a woman of purpose and passion. In our conversation, this was verified. Elaine even rewarded me with chocolates! Now, that’s living with passion!

The next time you find a planner, remember, it could be an opportunity to meet another traveler on the spiritual journey to a life of passion and purpose. Take advantage of the opportunity.

Live in the moment; live passionately!
Coach Carolyn

 
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