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"A good question is never answered. It is not a bolt to be tightened into place, but a seed to be planted and to bear more seeds toward the hope of greening the landscape of idea." ~ Henry David Thoreau

One of the social sites I love to play at is Gaia. The Gaia Community is a space to share and focus energy on what inspires rather than on what is feared, manifesting a world of kindness and heart-centeredness. In the Gaia community, I am known as the Mystic Empath ~ come by and say hey!

Anywho, one of my daily spiritual practices is logging onto Gaia each morning and answering the daily question and reflection. Fellow Gaian Siona, Director of the Gaian Community creates these thoughtful questions each day...

"Think of Gaia's Questions and Reflections as an invitation and guide into your highest self. Every day, we offer an inquiry designed to push you to think deeply about those things that matter most. We'll encourage you to continue to discover and follow your calling, to explore and connect with yourself, to envision and attain your goals, and to craft, passionately, your own extraordinary and unique life."

I will ask yesterday's question here as our Purposeful Question of the Week. I pose this question because my response brought a comment from Lady Siona herself...

“Before I was born in this physical body, a whole society of storytellers was already here. The story was ongoing, and from their story I learned how to create my own. The storytellers whoa re here before us teach us how to be human.

First they tell us what we are – a boy or a girl – then they tell us who we are, and who we should or shouldn’t be. They teach us how to be a proper woman, a decent woman, a strong man, a brave man.

They give us a name, an identity, and they tell us the role that we are playing in their story. They prepare us to live in a human jungle, to compete with one another, to control one another, to impose our will, to fight against our own kind.

Of course I believed what the storytellers told me. Why would I not believe them? They filled me with knowledge, and I used that knowledge to copy their style and create my art in a similar way.”

From The Voice of Knowledge by Don Miguel Ruiz

One of the ways on manifesting more inner and outer peace in our lives is learning to say NO to unreasonable demands. In The Success Principles by Jack Canfield, Principle #42 is Just Say No! He writes:

“Why do we find it so hard to say no to everybody’s requests? As children, many of us learned that no was an unacceptable answer. Responding with no was cause for discipline. Later, in our careers, no may have been the reason for a poor evaluation or failing to move up the corporate latter.

“Yet highly successful people say no all the time – to projects, to crazy deadlines, to questionable priorities, and to other people’s crises. In fact, they view the decision to say no as equally acceptable as the decision to say yes.”

Learning to say NO means freeing yourself up to be, well, yourself! If you have a difficult time saying NO, begin by requesting some time to give your answer. Say something like:

“I want to honor your request by taking some time to pray about it.” Or,
“That’s an important request and I want to answer you as honestly as I can. Let me think about it and I will get back to you in 24 hours.”

And remember, NO is a complete sentence, There is no need for justifying your decision. Your decision is your decision and the person needs to honor you and your decision.

So, just for today, just say NO!

Coach Carolyn

In The Success Principles by Jack Canfield, Principle #15 is Experience Your Fear and Take Action Anyway. He writes,

“Some people will do anything to avoid the uncomfortable feeling of fear. If you are one of those people, you run an even bigger risk of never getting what you want in life. Most of the good stuff requires taking a risk. And the nature of a risk is that it doesn’t always work out….” (pg 115)

We have heard the acronym for fear as False Evidence Appearing Real. Well Jack calls them Fantasized Experiences Appearing Real. Either way, we tend to fear what we have yet to experience. Instead of using our brilliant imaginations to fantasize about what might happen, why not use them to fantasize about what we desire. This will create a higher and more peaceful vibration within your mind, body and spirit.

"God gives everyone certain attributes, characteristics, talents, and then He says, "If you use what you have I'll increase it, but if you don't use it, you'll lose it." Use it or lose it; it's a law." ~ Charlie "Tremendous" Jones

"One's philosophy is not best expressed in words; it is expressed in the choices one makes ... and the choices we make are ultimately our responsibility." ~ Eleanor Roosevelt

In The Success Principles by Jack Canfield, Principle #1 is: Take 100% Responsibility for Your Life. This principle simply states that no matter what has happened to us in our past, we must suspend blaming someone or something else on what didn’t go right. We are the creators of our own lives and must take full responsibility for the creation process. What went on before is past. We cannot change our past. We can only look back and learn from it. The pieces that went wonderfully, we honor and celebrate; while the pieces that seemed crappy, we reconcile and release.

So, just for today, think about where you are right now. Not last week, last month, or last year – but right this very moment. What is the next inspired action you can take to create a brilliant life? Make it so.

"I was part of that strange race of people aptly described as spending their lives doing things they detest to make money they don't want to buy things they don't need to impress people they dislike." ~ Emile Henry Gauvreau