"We focus on the negatives, losing ourselves in the ‘problem.’ We point to our unhappy circumstances to rationalize our negative feelings. This is the easy way out. It takes, after all, very little effort to feel victimized." ~ Elizabeth Kubler-Ross
No one can make us a victim unless we sign up for it. There are no victims, only volunteers. Our thoughts and our feelings are within our control. We may not have control over our circumstances; that is why they are none of our business. What is our business is what we do have control over.
Author and teacher Byron Katie says there are three kinds of business: our business, other people's business and God's business. Part of our struggle is confusing whose business is whose. It is time to stop confusing our business with other people's business and God's business. The moment we stick to working on our own business, the struggle will cease and we will no longer subject ourselves to being victims.
It does take more effort to mind your own business, but once you get the hang of it, it is a cinch!
Coach Carolyn
