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“To lead is difficult when you're a follower of fear.” ~ T.A. Sachs

One of my favorite movies is The Holiday. It has some great lines, one of which says that while you are the leading lady in your life, you behave like the best friend – another words, you are living life like you are a supporting character in your own life.

If this is your story, then it is time to start writing a new script. To be a leading lady means you lead with conviction and courage, not following fear and doubt. One way to tell if you are the supporting character in your life instead of the leading lady is to look at what is showing up in your life. Are you getting vague, murky, and unclear messages, then STOP, TAKE A BREATH, and ASK:

“What message am I sending out to the universe?”

Then, notice what you are saying and reacting to. Are your words filled with power and conviction, or are they weak and filled with fear?

What you give is what you get back.

Coach Carolyn

Check out the Transcending Fear Mentoring Program if you are more supporting role than leading lady.

One of my favorite movies is The Holiday starring Kate Winslet, Jude Law, Cameron Diaz, and Jack Black. I use this movie to illustrate important points relating to living life on purpose. Hey, whatever works, right?

Well anyway… Jack Black’s character Miles is a hoot, as you can imagine. He’s my favorite. Gotta love him! Miles and Kate Winslet’s character Iris, are out having a bite. No, not of each other! Stay with me, now. So, when Miles reaches for the soy sauce, his hand accidentally brushes against Iris’ boob. And he announces to those within earshot, “Accidental boob graze!” I’m laughing as I write this.

Well, when I first met the lovely Ann Handley of Annarchy (you have to say that very loud with a booming voice: A N N A R C H Y! Makes a difference, huh?) last summer here in the Bigger Apple, we were having our picture taken and whoops! Accidental boob graze! Well we howled! Now, she doesn’t know I’m telling you this story. But being that you are my dearest friends, I feel I must since she has tagged or memed me.

Like Ann, I don’t do memes very well. I always forget to do something. But, I will give it another try.

Four Secrets About Me

1. I love movies from the 30’s and 40’s. Someone once told me I should have been born then. But then I couldn’t blog because blogs didn’t exist. Duh!

My favorite of that era is The Women. But the only purpose those women had was to stab other women in the back! I have evolved.

Yes, The Holiday is from this century. I can be flexible when the occasion calls for it!

2. I am an HSP – a highly sensitive person. So I can’t do violent and scary movies, loud noises, crowds, and airport security. Traumatic! And I live in New York City. Go figure!

3. My first job out of college was on a telephone complaint hotline – for the city. Okay, so now you know!

4. I had no intention of reading Eckhart Tolle’s A New Earth. But Oprah said I should. Okay, she said everybody should.

Now, none of these are really secrets. They are just well hidden, highly covert, in your face facts. Living in New York isn’t nearly as traumatic as these memes are. So, Lady Ann, my boob graze sister, here’s to you!

Oh yeah, this is the part I forget – who do I get to mess with next! Actually, this is the fun part. I am rubbing my hands with a decidedly sinister look on my face. But it’s wasted cuz well, you can't see me. Damn!

Well, I cannot allow this sinister look to go to waste, so here goes! My Mogulette sister, Carmina Perez; my Positivity sister, Kirsten Harrell; my Beautiful Chaotic sister, April Groves; my Café sister, Towanda Long.

Hey, I am a woman of purpose, so I have a lot of sisters!

Have a boob graze... on purpose!
Coach Carolyn