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“Be patient toward all that is unsolved in your heart and try to love the questions themselves. Do not now seek the answers, which cannot be given you because you would not be able to live them. And the point is to live everything. Live the questions.” ~ Rainer Maria Rilke

“Live your questions now, and perhaps even without knowing it, you will live along some distant day into your answers.” ~ Rainer Maria Rilke

Have an awesome weekend!
Coach Carolyn

"Walking your talk is a great way to motivate yourself. No one likes to live a lie. Be honest with yourself, and you will find the motivation to do what you advise others to do." - Vince Poscente

In other words, Be Impeccable With Your Word – Don Miguel Ruiz’ first of the Four Agreements.

Remember, everything you say has an impact on you and your world. Not only does it have an impact on your external life, but also and most especially, your internal life. Most people tend not to think about what they say on a daily basis; but it is critical to be mindful about what you think about and then, what you end up saying.

Watch your thoughts, they become words; Watch your words, they become actions; Watch your actions, they become habits; Watch your habits, they become character; Watch your character, it becomes your destiny; which become the results that we see in the world.

"If you want a kinder world, then behave with kindness; if you want a peaceful world, make peace within." ~ Dan Millman

"Making peace with ourselves is like building an inner house of peace and welcoming the God of peace to dwell there forever." ~ John Dear

I love both of these quotes because they speak of peace as a verb. Peace is something you choose to be, do, and have. If you want a peaceful environment, then be peace. If you want to maintain a peaceful atmosphere, then you must do peace yourself. As Gandhi once said, you must be the change you wish to see. In this case, you must be and do the peace you wish to see in your immediate world.

When all hell is breaking loose, don’t join in. What good will that do? Just create a bigger sphere of hell! Instead, maintain a level of peace and calm. Keep your cool and just observe. Don’t judge, don’t criticize, don’t analyze. Just observe. If you allow everyone else’s drama to affect you, then you are simply at the mercy of everyone else’s drama. If you need, take a “water break.” Visit the lu. Go get a drink of water. Silently bless the water you use, say a prayer of peace, then return to your place. You will be amazed at how much calmer and reserved you will be because you stepped away from all that negative energy.

Just for today, stop getting caught up in everyone else’s drama. Keep your cool and maintain your own peace and watch peace become your dearest friend.

“To fear is one thing. To let fear grab you by the tail and swing you around is another.” ~ Katherine Paterson

Although we do not choose our emotions, we do choose which ones will hang around and upset our lives. Our emotions are God-given and we have them for a specific purpose – not to torture us or abuse us; but to alert us to a next step in our lives.

When we stay stuck in fear, we are not allowing the fear to do the job it came to do, to alert us to something that will assist us in our growth. Instead we do not acknowledge the fear, let alone confront it. We are called to stare down our fears, asking it what it wants from us, then taking the next inspired actions.

You are the master of your emotions, not the other way around. Stop allowing your fears to control how you are being and doing in life. Fear is to compliment your existence, not stop it!

"As for worrying about what other people might think - forget it. They aren't concerned about you. They're too busy worrying about what you and other people think of them." ~ Michael le Boeuf

This is so true! It reminds me of something author and leadership expert Dr. John Maxwell often quoted. He said you wouldn’t worry so much what other people thought of you if you knew how rarely they did!

So, get over yourself! People are not thinking about you. In fact, they aren’t thinking of much of anything. They are rehashing yesterday’s fears, worries and doubts; so they really aren’t thinking at all.

But you can be the change you would like to see in your world. Instead of thinking about what other people are thinking about, think about thinking for a change. Did I completely confuse you?

What I mean is, think about what you are thinking about. Are you too rehashing yesterday’s junk? Or, are you really thinking a new thought? Are you being creative, thinking about new ideas and new innovations, and things you can do to become a better you? This is where your mind need to be – in becoming a bigger, better, more powerful you! Check out my post, "I Think...Therefore I AM."

So, just for today, stop thinking about what someone else is thinking about you – because chances are, they aren’t!