4:09 AM

Ask Four Questions...Turn It Around

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“Be patient toward all that is unsolved in your heart and try to love the questions themselves. Do not now seek the answers, which cannot be given you because you would not be able to live them. And the point is to live everything. Live the questions.” ~ Rainer Maria Rilke

Just for today, think about something or someone who is really irking your last nerve! Got it? Now do The Work on it. Ask the four questions and then turn it around…

Byron Katie says all the suffering that goes on inside our minds is not reality. It's just a story we torture ourselves with. She has a simple, completely replicable system for freeing ourselves of the thoughts that make us suffer. "All war begins on paper," she explains. You write down your stressful thoughts, and then ask yourself the following four questions:

Question 1: Is it true?
This question can change your life. Be still and ask yourself if the thought you wrote down is true.

Question 2: Can you absolutely know it's true?
This is another opportunity to open your mind and to go deeper into the unknown, to find the answers that live beneath what we think we know.

Question 3: How do you react—what happens—when you believe that thought?
With this question, you begin to notice internal cause and effect. You can see that when you believe the thought, there is a disturbance that can range from mild discomfort to fear or panic. What do you feel? How do you treat the person (or the situation) you've written about, how do you treat yourself, when you believe that thought? Make a list, and be specific.

Question 4: Who would you be without the thought?
Imagine yourself in the presence of that person (or in that situation), without believing the thought. How would your life be different if you didn't have the ability to even think the stressful thought? How would you feel? Which do you prefer—life with or without the thought? Which feels kinder, more peaceful?

Turn the thought around:
The "turnaround" gives you an opportunity to experience the opposite of what you believe. Once you have found one or more turnarounds to your original statement, you are invited to find at least three specific, genuine examples of how each turnaround is true in your life.

Have an awesome, stress-free weekend!
Coach Carolyn

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3:38 AM

One Small Change

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Just for today, I want to share this with you from Leo Babauta's mnmlist.com, a blog on minimalism:



the only thing you can change



You can't change your entire life.

You can only change your next action.



You can't change a relationship with a loved one.

You can only change your next interaction.



You can't change your entire job.

You can only change your next task.



You can't change your body composition.

You can only change your next meal.



You can't change your fitness level.

You can only start moving.



You can't declutter your entire life.

You can only choose to get rid of one thing, right now.



You can't eliminate your entire debt.

You can only make one payment, or buy one less unnecessary item.



You can't change the past, or control the future.

You can only change what you’re doing right now.



You can't change everything.

You can only change one, small thing.



And that's all it takes.



Enough said,

Coach Carolyn

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5:15 AM

Clean Out Those Toxic Relationships

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“The people we are in relationship with are always a mirror, reflecting our own beliefs, and simultaneously we are mirrors reflecting their beliefs. So relationship is one of the most powerful tools for growth... if we look honestly at our relationships we can see so much about how we have created them.” ~ Shakti Gawain

Who are you hanging out with? Are you spending most of your time around nutritious people? Or toxic people?

Remember, you are the average of your five closest friends. Think about who those five friends are. Do you find yourself complaining about them more and more as time goes on? When you leave their company do you feel challenged, rejuvenated and encouraged?

Have you stopped to ask yourself about your close relationships? If not, why not?

If you are tolerating toxic people, then it will reflect in your life.

If I gave you a beautiful bottle, I am sure you would take it. If I told you that bottle contains a deadly poison, you would think twice about taking it. Yet, this is exactly what you are doing when you associate with toxic people. You are not only taking the bottle, but you are ingesting the poison!

On the same coin – are you a nutritious friend to someone else? Or, are you someone other people would not want to be around? This goes both ways. Remember, when we point the finger, we have three more pointing right back at ourselves.

Just for today, take a serious inventory of your closest relationships. It may be time to do some spring cleaning.

Coach Carolyn

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4:46 AM

Practice Telling Your New Story

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“Start telling a better-feeling story about the things that are important to you. Do not write your story like a factual documentary, weighing all the pros and cons of your experience, but instead tell the uplifting, fanciful, magical story of the wonder of your own life and watch what happens. It will feel like magic as your life begins to transform right before yours eyes, but it is not by magic. It is by the power of the Laws of the Universe and your deliberate alignment with those Laws.” ~ Abraham

Okay, to the ladies who have been journeying with me the past few months, this should sound extremely familiar! You have written your new stories. Are you telling those new stories to yourself and everyone you meet? Or, are you still telling the same old story that absolutely does not serve you anymore?

Even if you have to take it a piece at a time: start with telling something new about your spiritual practices – how great you feel when you do your gratitude and manifestation lists, and how you can see the transformative effects it is having in your life. Get the picture? You don’t have to start out telling some long, drawn out brand new story. Probably you don’t even believe it all yet. Just start small. Remember, it is about baby steps.

Just for today, tell one piece of your new story. Pick your favorite piece and practice by telling that piece to one nutritious friend; not a naysayer! Then continue having a conversation about it, as if it’s really real! You will be amazed at how it makes you feel and it will boost your level of self esteem as well.

Practice telling your new story.
Coach Carolyn

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4:38 AM

Change Begins With Choice

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I received this from one of my spiritual mentors and I thought it a wonderful message to begin the new week of a new month! This article is by Jim Rohn. Enjoy!

Any day we wish; we can discipline ourselves to change it all. Any day we wish; we can open the book that will open our mind to new knowledge. Any day we wish; we can start a new activity. Any day we wish; we can start the process of life change. We can do it immediately, or next week, or next month, or next year.

We can also do nothing. We can pretend rather than perform. And if the idea of having to change ourselves makes us uncomfortable, we can remain as we are. We can choose rest over labor, entertainment over education, delusion over truth, and doubt over confidence. The choices are ours to make. But while we curse the effect, we continue to nourish the cause. As Shakespeare uniquely observed, "The fault is not in the stars, but in ourselves." We created our circumstances by our past choices. We have both the ability and the responsibility to make better choices beginning today. Those who are in search of the good life do not need more answers or more time to think things over to reach better conclusions. They need the truth. They need the whole truth. And they need nothing but the truth.

We cannot allow our errors in judgment, repeated every day, to lead us down the wrong path. We must keep coming back to those basics that make the biggest difference in how our life works out. And then we must make the very choices that will bring life, happiness and joy into our daily lives. And if I may be so bold to offer my last piece of advice for someone seeking and needing to make changes in their life - If you don't like how things are, change it! You're not a tree. You have the ability to totally transform every area in your life - and it all begins with your very own power of choice.

To your prosperous life!
Coach Carolyn

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